As someone who went to one of those schools, it's more simply that they all compete with one another and nobody feels like having those conversations anymore af

As someone who went to one of those schools, it's more simply that they all compete with one another and nobody feels like having those conversations anymore after the age of 25. The people that go to those schools tend to gravitate to NYC/Boston/Philly/DC, and we all know each other since those schools are all fed by the northeast boarding schools.