To me that's showing respect because we treat each other like real people and not some fragile beings that are offended all the time. Agreed, and there's defin

To me that's showing respect because we treat each other like real people and not some fragile beings that are offended all the time. Agreed, and there's definitely a benefit to discussing with members outside of your ethnic/racial/cultural group their traditions comparatively with yours for mutual understanding and respect for the benefit of coming closer together as people. It's not however the same as "joking" about the delineations between race and culture or otherwise trivializing them in one way or another; and it should be noted, that I make that distinction as a counter-point because while I definitely hear you on this phenomenon and will even go so far as to concede agreement, your point is very-and uncomfortably-often used as a feigned concession when a member of a certain ethnic group or minority points out how instances of out group or members of an out group x talk about unique aspects of said ethnic group/minority either (A) come up offensively short of lived reality or (B) are just prima face offensive. Edit: I'm not saying that's what you're doing, by the way. That accusation isn't being lobbied, the behavior is being held to a spotlight however for the sake of discussing this further-for which I'm privileged to be doing with you today.