The communication barrier is enough to ensure that the nature of the relationship is not necessarily agreed upon by both parties. It's like that trope in movies

The communication barrier is enough to ensure that the nature of the relationship is not necessarily agreed upon by both parties. It's like that trope in movies where someone visits another (generally less developed) culture, spends some time with them, and then discovers that they've been married into the group without realizing it. Cats in particular are clearly not in agreement in regards to who is in charge in our relationships with them. They'll tolerate our paternalism on account of our superior size and power, but once you're no longer in the immediate vicinity compelling them they pretty much do whatever they want. They're teachable, but not really trainable.