It's definitely just from her perspective but that's not how it's written. The title doesn't say that. She says "mark my words" later. She notes that she's an a

It's definitely just from her perspective but that's not how it's written. The title doesn't say that. She says "mark my words" later. She notes that she's an advice columnist. Also... > But once you’ve been married for a long time (my tenth anniversary is in a few months!), a whole new kind of romance takes over. So I disagree; she's not just telling her story. She's trying to tell a narrative that this is how it is and that it's romantic. That being in the slog and not investing personal time in the husband/wife relationship is romantic. Everything she described could occur between two good friends. She writes nothing about how a wife might do her part to keep the romance going. She just describes how her husband keeps her version of romance going. There are two sides to everything. Just recently I was out with a bunch of guys that have been married 15+ years, all with kids. 5/6 of them basically complained about not being appreciated (gratitude/attention/sexually) and being unhappy. Their wives are completely consumed by kids and they're not putting enough time and attention into the husband/wife relationship. It's sad. Just because you hit 10 years doesn't mean it's going to be sustainable for both parties. You don't just fall in line with the slog, esp. with kids and call it romantic. It takes hard work and great communication for the husband and wife to have a healthy, romantic marriage. Sometimes you have to say your needs/expecations aren't being met and you want to find a way to meet them despite the slog of everyday life. I'll agree with the author that women see romance differently than men; that's precisely my point. I have a problem with the author pushing advice about keeping the romance alive in marriages that doesn't consider both parties. Both parties either have to see eye to eye on their definitions or understand the other side's perspective. I know that if I do extra chores around the house, my wife will get turned on and we'll both reap the benefits. If I see her doing chores, that doesn't turn me on. That's how we're wired. But let's not pretend like both sides see it the same way. Men - pitch in more on tasks, be a better team player and indulge the mundane with your partner to be more romantic. I agree with the author here. Men can do more here. Women - author doesn't talk about this at all. Basically it's still the more Hollywood romance stuff. Most men are not going to see romance as the slog she describes. That's an illusion.