There's less awareness surrounding abusive relationships where men are the victims because it goes against the cultural trope of manliness, but what you describ

There's less awareness surrounding abusive relationships where men are the victims because it goes against the cultural trope of manliness, but what you describe is an abusive relationship. Psychological abuse is a form of domestic abuse even if it's not something you can easily call the cops over. There are plenty of unhealthy relationships among married couples because of traditional views that "marriage is forever" and if you get a divorce, you're a failure. Luckily where I live these social pressures have become much weaker and this experience seems to be less common than a few generations ago. This has nothing to do with marriage (or any other committed long-term relationship) itself, however. Of course these relationships are about compromises but it's highly subjective what compromises you are willing to make and what compromises you can make without being unhappy. In a healthy relationship both partners should care about the mental and emotional well-being of the other. That also includes preventing the partner from compromising where they shouldn't and being respectful enough to their needs to tell them if things can't work out. It doesn't sound like that happened in the relationships you describe. It's actually pretty common for women to seem more "controlling" in relationships. This doesn't even have anything to do with feminism, the trope of the "henpecked husband" has been around for a long term. But that's not a problem in itself. Also, behaviour that could seem condescending to outsiders can actually be part of a healthy relationship as long as both partners have a shared understanding of what they are comfortable with and in what context. It can be very difficult to determine whether a relationship is healthy or not if you lack the full knowledge of these dynamics.