Brilliant article. And I think the author is pretty spot on. I think a lot of the divorce rate is caused mostly by a lack of understanding that the infatuation

Brilliant article. And I think the author is pretty spot on. I think a lot of the divorce rate is caused mostly by a lack of understanding that the infatuation of the first year or two doesn't last. That at some point the romance is in being deeply known, surviving life together, and being able to depend on each other. This is not to say that there won't be dates, dinners, flowers, etc. But just that those things become footnotes. I suspect that our culture (in the US particularly) has so tightly bound romance with lust and infatuation, that that's what people who get divorce after divorce are constantly in search of. How sad I am when I hear "we're great friends, but we both just want something more..." Like what? Because you can totally try someone new on like a pair of socks, and in all probability, in ten years, if everything's gone well, be right back to where you started: best friends, but something deeper because you've survived together. True romance and the fruits of it are only achieved after decades.