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Gay man here. In a long term relationship. Also have lots of straight friends, so I've heard about that side of things as well. I think the trope of a happy mar
by biocomputation 10y ago
Gay man here. In a long term relationship. Also have lots of straight friends, so I've heard about that side of things as well. I think the trope of a happy marriage requiring sex is just as harmful.
The truth is that a marriage needs as much sex as it needs, no more, no less. There are people who are perfectly happy in sexless marriages, and people who are miserable in marriages where sex isn't a problem.
The most important ingredients for a happy marriage are two people who are well sorted ou. Everything else is negotiable.
- dclowd9901 10y agoI absolutely agree with you. But it's not addressed here and simply continues the trope that all marriages become sexless, joyless slogs where we're just supposed to be happy with living. You see it everywhere, and I think it gives people the idea that there's only one kind of marriage: one where you don't have sex but you love each other all the same. I think it would have been great for her to at least talk about their sexual frequency and how agreement of frequency is important, otherwise that lack of passion undermines everything.