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When you are depressed, please try seeing a professional if you have the time/money/insurance coverage. We've made a condition that is largely out of your cont

When you are depressed, please try seeing a professional if you have the time/money/insurance coverage. We've made a condition that is largely out of your control a taboo and I don't know why. It's ok to want to be functional, and people can help without pretending like your depression/any other condition isn't real.

benevol 10y ago
> We've made a condition that is largely out of your control a taboo and I don't know why. It says a lot about how humane the society we live in really is.
yellowapple 10y ago
"We've made a condition that is largely out of your control a taboo and I don't know why." The reason "why" is (I suspect) because the people who don't understand depression think that it's not out of one's control. Thus, since they don't experience the effects of depression, they insist that people with depression will be magically cured if they just tried to be happy. This approach to curing depression - much like trying to fix a severed limb by pretending it's still there - is almost always destined to fail. When it does inevitably fail, the non-depressed people - still failing to understand depression - resort to blaming the depressed people for being depressed. It's very unsurprising, after all, much like how it's unsurprising for a physically-healthy person to take for granted the ability to use stairs, or how it's very unsurprising for right-handed UX designers to assume that users are right-handed (I'm looking at all y'all Android designers...), or how it's very unsurprising for developers to brush aside bugs with their software because it "works fine on my machine, so you're obviously just doing it wrong; RTFM". No, I already Read The Fucking Manual™; you just suck at comprehending that your exact situation is not everyone else's.
- codezero 10y ago
  > how it's unsurprising for a physically-healthy person to take for granted the ability to use stairs I broke my arm a year ago and I was surprised to see how much rote behavior I relied on using my left hand for! It was pretty enlightening and I try to think about what I take for granted from time to time.
  - yellowapple 10y ago
    I had a similar experience when I tore my ACL; I still don't really feel comfortable going down stairs (up is fine for some reason) even after a very successful surgery.

benevol 10y ago

> We've made a condition that is largely out of your control a taboo and I don't know why. It says a lot about how humane the society we live in really is.

yellowapple 10y ago

"We've made a condition that is largely out of your control a taboo and I don't know why." The reason "why" is (I suspect) because the people who don't understand depression think that it's not out of one's control. Thus, since they don't experience the effects of depression, they insist that people with depression will be magically cured if they just tried to be happy. This approach to curing depression - much like trying to fix a severed limb by pretending it's still there - is almost always destined to fail. When it does inevitably fail, the non-depressed people - still failing to understand depression - resort to blaming the depressed people for being depressed. It's very unsurprising, after all, much like how it's unsurprising for a physically-healthy person to take for granted the ability to use stairs, or how it's very unsurprising for right-handed UX designers to assume that users are right-handed (I'm looking at all y'all Android designers...), or how it's very unsurprising for developers to brush aside bugs with their software because it "works fine on my machine, so you're obviously just doing it wrong; RTFM". No, I already Read The Fucking Manual™; you just suck at comprehending that your exact situation is not everyone else's.

codezero 10y ago
> how it's unsurprising for a physically-healthy person to take for granted the ability to use stairs I broke my arm a year ago and I was surprised to see how much rote behavior I relied on using my left hand for! It was pretty enlightening and I try to think about what I take for granted from time to time.
- yellowapple 10y ago
  I had a similar experience when I tore my ACL; I still don't really feel comfortable going down stairs (up is fine for some reason) even after a very successful surgery.