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In my experience, hooking up and dating aren't mutually exclusive -- hooking up is the new dating. Both of the serious relationships I've been in started as "ho

In my experience, hooking up and dating aren't mutually exclusive -- hooking up is the new dating. Both of the serious relationships I've been in started as "hooking up", progressed to steady "fuck buddies", then eventually developed into a holding-hands-in-public relationship.

barmstrong 16y ago
It's true - lots of relationships start this way.
- pw0ncakes 16y ago
  * Lots of short-term, usually unbalanced, relationships between poorly-matched people.
  - pyre 16y ago
    Right. I forgot that the only 'real' way to get into a lasting relationship is to delve deep into our past and brush the dust off of the practice of arranged marriages. Maybe we should go back to the 'good ole days' where if a girl got pregnant in highschool we stoned her to death, or at least made it so that the guy was a hero and she would spend the rest of her life as a pariah... [ note: I say this from a USA-centric perspective, not hating on cultures that still practice this in a respectful manner. By 'this,' I mean 'arranged marriage,' not 'stoning to death.' ]
    - pw0ncakes 16y ago
      Arranged marriage and misogyny vs. meaningless casual sex. False dichotomy much?
      - pyre 16y ago
        I think that you should review your own opinions with 'false dichotomy' in mind. You seem to have some very harsh judgements that you feel the need to toss around loosely. I'm almost of the mind that you're just a troll and that you're making these comments in an attempt to have some long, deep, argumentative discussion thread. Rather than making short and harsh comments, you could frame them in a less accusatory fashion that doesn't look like you are just making the comment to hate on people and pass judgement (on large swaths of -- essentially -- faceless people, no less) in a public manner to satisfy some sort of inner urge. If you really feel that relationships that start out based on sex always end up in failure, you could have framed that comment in a much better light that would have spawned actual discussion.
        pw0ncakes 16y ago
        I don't mean to be hating on the people. I hate the culture of casual sex. The culture is disgusting. The people are mostly not disgusting, just misguided. I don't mean to imply that they're morally depraved people for participating in something stupid; I've certainly done my share of idiotic and embarrassing things and don't consider myself immoral for it. Really, though, I don't care what people do, as long as it's not in my face and doesn't affect me. I'm five years out of college, so I don't really care that much. I think it's a shame what a farce college has become for most American students, but that problem comes from a lot of factors, most of which have nothing to do with sex.
        theBobMcCormick 16y ago
        There's nothing immoral about sex (for any sane definition of morality). You sound rather angry, and like you have some deep seated hangup about your own sexuality. I'd really suggest looking into seeing a professional therapist.
pw0ncakes 16y ago
I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy". It's just a gross and depressing concept.
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- pyre 16y ago
  So you would never date someone that slept with someone else? 'Fuck buddy' doesn't imply that it's a one-way street and that one of them is essentially a 'blow-up doll' for the other one to use just to get off.
  - pw0ncakes 16y ago
    Literal: I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy". Interpretation: So you would never date someone that slept with someone else? Am I missing a few steps here? I never remotely implied that.
    - pyre 16y ago
      The definition of the term 'fuck buddy' probably varies from person to person, so how exactly do you feel you can determine whether someone that you're dating/looking to date was someone else's 'fuck buddy?'
    - ryanwaggoner 16y ago
      I suspect that the primary source of the confusion here is the word "was". pw0ncakes likely means that he wouldn't date someone who was currently someone else's fuck buddy. pyre is taking it to mean that he wouldn't date someone who had ever been someone else's fuck buddy. Or I'm way off, in which case, on with your argument :)
- milkshakes 16y ago

barmstrong 16y ago

It's true - lots of relationships start this way.

pw0ncakes 16y ago
* Lots of short-term, usually unbalanced, relationships between poorly-matched people.
- pyre 16y ago
  Right. I forgot that the only 'real' way to get into a lasting relationship is to delve deep into our past and brush the dust off of the practice of arranged marriages. Maybe we should go back to the 'good ole days' where if a girl got pregnant in highschool we stoned her to death, or at least made it so that the guy was a hero and she would spend the rest of her life as a pariah... [ note: I say this from a USA-centric perspective, not hating on cultures that still practice this in a respectful manner. By 'this,' I mean 'arranged marriage,' not 'stoning to death.' ]
  - pw0ncakes 16y ago
    Arranged marriage and misogyny vs. meaningless casual sex. False dichotomy much?
    - pyre 16y ago
      I think that you should review your own opinions with 'false dichotomy' in mind. You seem to have some very harsh judgements that you feel the need to toss around loosely. I'm almost of the mind that you're just a troll and that you're making these comments in an attempt to have some long, deep, argumentative discussion thread. Rather than making short and harsh comments, you could frame them in a less accusatory fashion that doesn't look like you are just making the comment to hate on people and pass judgement (on large swaths of -- essentially -- faceless people, no less) in a public manner to satisfy some sort of inner urge. If you really feel that relationships that start out based on sex always end up in failure, you could have framed that comment in a much better light that would have spawned actual discussion.
      - pw0ncakes 16y ago
        I don't mean to be hating on the people. I hate the culture of casual sex. The culture is disgusting. The people are mostly not disgusting, just misguided. I don't mean to imply that they're morally depraved people for participating in something stupid; I've certainly done my share of idiotic and embarrassing things and don't consider myself immoral for it. Really, though, I don't care what people do, as long as it's not in my face and doesn't affect me. I'm five years out of college, so I don't really care that much. I think it's a shame what a farce college has become for most American students, but that problem comes from a lot of factors, most of which have nothing to do with sex.
        theBobMcCormick 16y ago
        There's nothing immoral about sex (for any sane definition of morality). You sound rather angry, and like you have some deep seated hangup about your own sexuality. I'd really suggest looking into seeing a professional therapist.

pw0ncakes 16y ago

I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy". It's just a gross and depressing concept.

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pyre 16y ago
So you would never date someone that slept with someone else? 'Fuck buddy' doesn't imply that it's a one-way street and that one of them is essentially a 'blow-up doll' for the other one to use just to get off.
- pw0ncakes 16y ago
  Literal: I would never date someone who was someone else's "fuck buddy". Interpretation: So you would never date someone that slept with someone else? Am I missing a few steps here? I never remotely implied that.
  - pyre 16y ago
    The definition of the term 'fuck buddy' probably varies from person to person, so how exactly do you feel you can determine whether someone that you're dating/looking to date was someone else's 'fuck buddy?'
  - ryanwaggoner 16y ago
    I suspect that the primary source of the confusion here is the word "was". pw0ncakes likely means that he wouldn't date someone who was currently someone else's fuck buddy. pyre is taking it to mean that he wouldn't date someone who had ever been someone else's fuck buddy. Or I'm way off, in which case, on with your argument :)
milkshakes 16y ago