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Is this really the way to deal with comments you disagree with? Courts do tend to favor mothers in custody battles. There are valid reasons for this, for exam
by tps5 10y ago
Is this really the way to deal with comments you disagree with?
Courts do tend to favor mothers in custody battles. There are valid reasons for this, for example: mothers tend to be the "primary caregiver" more often than fathers. But there are also invalid reasons, like the lingering belief that a "mother figure" is more important in raising a child than a "father figure." That belief has its roots in history; in the recent past, after a divorce, it was almost always understood that the children would remain with the mother because raising children was "women's work."
Whether this belief continues today and whether it affects the outcome of custody battles is a valid thing to talk about. I don't think you're right to shame someone for bringing it up.
- cryptarch 10y agoI'm thankful; without this comment I wouldn't have thought to rotate my nyms. Being able to downvote is pretty cool but hmkay.
- lacampbell 10y agoA brief perusal of his blog suggests he is a left-wing extremist - so it's no surprise his tactic was to attempt shaming. Shame is a powerful incentive for collectivists, and presumably in his own mind he feels it's an effective tool to use against people he disagrees with. After all, people will self censor to a large degree if they fear it. It's also telling that this was his response to reading something he disagreed with, as opposed to say - making an argument. He's not the first left-wing extremist I've dealt with, nor will he be the last. His blog post was harmless (if anything it was beneficial, hope the site is SEO'd). It does drag down the tone of the conversation, but there's nothing much to be done about that.
- lkrubner 10y agoAbout this: "I don't think you're right to shame someone for bringing it up." Let me see if I understand this: you are saying that if I repeat what someone said, in a public space, under their own name, then I am shaming them? I hope you will take a moment and think about that, because there is no way for that to make any sense. Regarding his comment, there are only 2 possible interpretations: 1.) He is now ashamed of what he wrote and therefore he will be understanding of what criticism he faces. 2.) He is proud of what he wrote and he welcomes any additional attention his comments can get. It seems to me that you are trying to create a bizarre hybrid of #1 (there is something shameful about his comments) and #2 (his comment is "a valid thing to talk about"). But his comment can only be #1 or #2, it can not be both. About this: "Is this really the way to deal with comments you disagree with?" What are you talking about? Is your implication that there is something wrong with taking a screenshot of someone's words? Is there something wrong with reposting them? He posted those words in a public forum -- the default assumption is therefore that he wants attention, and welcomes attention. Your comment is strange, and I would welcome some explanation.
- mistermann 10y agoThe apparent general disagreement with your theory suggests there may be a third explanation.
- lkrubner 10y agoI am not aware of general disagreement with what I said. sctb wisely detached this thread from the main conversation, since this sub-thread seems to have been taken over by a few individuals who sound like refugees from TheRedPill. Their opinions are hardly representative of the views of most people on Hacker News.