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Grindr brings out the worst in gay men, it is an STD sharing application and often enough it makes me feel ashamed to be gay. I believe that all in all it made

Grindr brings out the worst in gay men, it is an STD sharing application and often enough it makes me feel ashamed to be gay. I believe that all in all it made the world worse for gay men.

grindruser22 10y ago
How so? In terms of disease .. in terms of how people treat each other there? Something else?
- Traubenfuchs 10y ago
  Sex is reduced to a commodity, people get offended if you waste their time by talking about anything but how and where you two will have sex, rampant racism against Asians and black people is common (which, as a white man, does not concern me). There are countless predators there looking to exploit young and inexperienced men, like me from years ago. It makes lots people unable to have monogamous relationships, because at every moment sex with incredibly attractive men is less than a minute away. If you want countless real life examples just search for Grindr on /r/askgaybros: https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/search?q=grindr&restrict_sr=on https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/search?q=grindr&restrict...
  - xemoka 10y ago
    Grindr isn't the only thing in the world reducing sex to a commodity, that happened long before Grindr showed up in the scene. Same with predators; when was the last time you went to a basement gaybar? You put monogamy on a pedestal as if everyone should prescribe to your world views, perhaps they don't?
    - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
      Nothing reduces sex more to a commodity than a catalog of abs tagged with top/bottom/vers. I am happy for everyone who is sex positive and enjoys Grindr to it's fullest though, but I believe Grindr is reducing the gay population's interest in monogamous relationship which is what I am looking for. Yes I put monogamy on a pedestal, but I am aware that the majority of gay men do not or seemingly outright reject monogamy.
  - grindruser22 10y ago
    Sure, but as a bisexaul dude what you speak of happens on Grindr or Tinder or OkCupid. It's about collecting hook ups and matches that are attractive to you and meet what you seek. No matter the gay or str8 app a good majority of white people seek out attractive white people. This is an unfortunate fact! Since I'm bi, I use Grindr for hook ups only and have relationships with women. Though most of the women on str8 apps that i want ignore me, so Im busy collecting matches on Grindr and Scruff to hook up with them when the urge hits us both. But, when I found her my focus is her and Im happily monogamous when in a str8 relationship. Overall dating apps are a negative on our society as its all about looks and the majority judge you and if you don't fit the mold you are ignored. Better to be ignored then to have someone be mean to you though... never be mean... always ignore!!!
    - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
      On Tinder and OkCupid people usually read my profile unless they can not read German. The rate of people fetishizing me for my abs is significantly lower on those platforms as well. I have NEVER been asked about what's my preferred position in bed on them.
xemoka 10y ago
I disagree. Sure, there can be crummy people on it, but there's also great people. People you can actually form relationships with—my partner can attest to that one. Also, sometimes sex is just sex, Tinder is no worse (or better).
- Traubenfuchs 10y ago
  I have heard lots of stories of people finding long term partners on Grindr, but I am fed up with searching for someone who looks for a serious relationship among a flood of dick pics and people who did not read my profile even if my profile name was "ReadMyProfile". OkCupid and Tinder led me to more success and half a handful of dates. I am happy for everyone who is sex positive and enjoys Grindr to it's fullest though, but I believe Grindr is reducing the gay population's interest in monogamous relationship which is what I am looking for.
  - xemoka 10y ago
    You're looking for something that isn't easily offered by the app, and yet blame it on the app and the users using it for what it's readily available for. I imagine you see the problem here...
    - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
      I blame the app for making it harder to find what I am looking for.

Grindr brings out the worst in gay men, it is an STD sharing application and often enough it makes me feel ashamed to be gay. I believe that all in all it made the world worse for gay men.

grindruser22 10y ago

How so? In terms of disease .. in terms of how people treat each other there? Something else?

Traubenfuchs 10y ago
Sex is reduced to a commodity, people get offended if you waste their time by talking about anything but how and where you two will have sex, rampant racism against Asians and black people is common (which, as a white man, does not concern me). There are countless predators there looking to exploit young and inexperienced men, like me from years ago. It makes lots people unable to have monogamous relationships, because at every moment sex with incredibly attractive men is less than a minute away. If you want countless real life examples just search for Grindr on /r/askgaybros: https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/search?q=grindr&restrict_sr=on https://www.reddit.com/r/askgaybros/search?q=grindr&restrict...
- xemoka 10y ago
  Grindr isn't the only thing in the world reducing sex to a commodity, that happened long before Grindr showed up in the scene. Same with predators; when was the last time you went to a basement gaybar? You put monogamy on a pedestal as if everyone should prescribe to your world views, perhaps they don't?
  - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
    Nothing reduces sex more to a commodity than a catalog of abs tagged with top/bottom/vers. I am happy for everyone who is sex positive and enjoys Grindr to it's fullest though, but I believe Grindr is reducing the gay population's interest in monogamous relationship which is what I am looking for. Yes I put monogamy on a pedestal, but I am aware that the majority of gay men do not or seemingly outright reject monogamy.
- grindruser22 10y ago
  Sure, but as a bisexaul dude what you speak of happens on Grindr or Tinder or OkCupid. It's about collecting hook ups and matches that are attractive to you and meet what you seek. No matter the gay or str8 app a good majority of white people seek out attractive white people. This is an unfortunate fact! Since I'm bi, I use Grindr for hook ups only and have relationships with women. Though most of the women on str8 apps that i want ignore me, so Im busy collecting matches on Grindr and Scruff to hook up with them when the urge hits us both. But, when I found her my focus is her and Im happily monogamous when in a str8 relationship. Overall dating apps are a negative on our society as its all about looks and the majority judge you and if you don't fit the mold you are ignored. Better to be ignored then to have someone be mean to you though... never be mean... always ignore!!!
  - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
    On Tinder and OkCupid people usually read my profile unless they can not read German. The rate of people fetishizing me for my abs is significantly lower on those platforms as well. I have NEVER been asked about what's my preferred position in bed on them.

xemoka 10y ago

I disagree. Sure, there can be crummy people on it, but there's also great people. People you can actually form relationships with—my partner can attest to that one. Also, sometimes sex is just sex, Tinder is no worse (or better).

Traubenfuchs 10y ago
I have heard lots of stories of people finding long term partners on Grindr, but I am fed up with searching for someone who looks for a serious relationship among a flood of dick pics and people who did not read my profile even if my profile name was "ReadMyProfile". OkCupid and Tinder led me to more success and half a handful of dates. I am happy for everyone who is sex positive and enjoys Grindr to it's fullest though, but I believe Grindr is reducing the gay population's interest in monogamous relationship which is what I am looking for.
- xemoka 10y ago
  You're looking for something that isn't easily offered by the app, and yet blame it on the app and the users using it for what it's readily available for. I imagine you see the problem here...
  - Traubenfuchs 10y ago
    I blame the app for making it harder to find what I am looking for.