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no, i think you have it backwards. the men who are 50 something right now dove headlong into family+salary+mortgage at an early age, possibly against their tru
by beachstartup 10y ago
no, i think you have it backwards. the men who are 50 something right now dove headlong into family+salary+mortgage at an early age, possibly against their true desires, and many of them are feeling the negative effects of that.
peter pan syndrome means you never actually did anything with your life (positive or negative), not that you've been beaten down by it. how can you be beaten down by nothing?
- blubb-fish 10y agowhether you feel good or bad about your life depends 90% on personal and subjective perception. And this perception is almost 100% determined by the surrounding society. The other 10% are health facts. Take a man who is somewhat wealthy in India and place him into San Francisco while conserving the living conditions - he will feel poor and inferior. Or one of those guys who feel betrayed by the US government and hence voted for Trump - their living standard is most likely superior to that of a (very happy) king in ancient Egypt. Today's 50 y/o men are influenced by what media communicates - and that is essentially a message conveying a hedonistic and materialistic lifestyle. Those guys feel bad b/c they don't look as ripped as some Hollywood actor, their spouse not as hot as some chick on a magazine, they can't buy that car b/c their children are expensive etc. Mature men and women consume less - and our society is built on consumption.
- JKCalhoun 10y agoI'm 52 — dove into family+salary+mortgage around the age of 30. I have no regrets at all. Kids are awesome, a wife is awesome, home equity is awesome.
- beachstartup 10y agoi wouldn't say 30 is an early age. it is young but i was referring to people who get shackled at 22 before they actually fully develop.