I need to be in a place where it is safe for me to hold hands with my husband. I need to be in a place where my husband (who is not from the US) is not discrim

I need to be in a place where it is safe for me to hold hands with my husband. I need to be in a place where my husband (who is not from the US) is not discriminated against for his accent or color of skin. I'd like to be in a place where there are enough other gay people that form a community. There needs to be a good food scene. (I'm missing that in Boston.) The cost of living difference has to be more than the wage differential. Most of my life was spent in Tucson, Arizona. I don't have the same fears of living outside the "it" city, but let it be said that a large problem in Tucson was that there were only so many places to work. That will be a problem in Boise, because relocating two people for a job is much harder than relocating one.