I think the big thing is making yourself vulnerable to take that next leap. There's a few people you probably know (at least a little bit) from work, or meetup

I think the big thing is making yourself vulnerable to take that next leap. There's a few people you probably know (at least a little bit) from work, or meetups, or maybe they live near you. Ask them to get lunch or grab coffee. Start sending them texts or emails more often. Some people might say no over and over again or they just might be busy. Also - if someone asks you to do something - Just say yes. I learned that if you say no the first 1 or 2 times someone asks you to hang out or come to a party - the invitations will stop.