No, the thugs in the aforementioned story do that. The incident was already over. The girlfriend was asking for revenge (not justice) and the guy described in

No, the thugs in the aforementioned story do that. The incident was already over. The girlfriend was asking for revenge (not justice) and the guy described in the article how he had to react « as a man ». That's escalation. Now if you are caught in the middle of such situations there a number of methods you can try to defuse the situation: http://lifehacker.com/ive-worked-bar-security-heres-how-to-talk-your-way-out-1789998817 http://lifehacker.com/ive-worked-bar-security-heres-how-to-t... (I know it's from lifehacker but the article has really good tips. Ignore the pictures).