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On the other hand I have heard more than once people who do sometimes very secretly confess they wish their cousin/brother/etc with Down's had been aborted. The
by throwaway87293 10y ago
On the other hand I have heard more than once people who do sometimes very secretly confess they wish their cousin/brother/etc with Down's had been aborted. They always talk about all the love and joy and positive things too. But at the end of the day, they say, they think they would have preferred it the other way. But this is not pretty, and it's not something people like to talk about. So if you just take what people say in public, you maybe don't get accurate representation.
Maybe the people I know are not good representation of the population, though!
- AReallyGoodName 10y agoIn the case of extremely severe disabilities i think we can all completely understand that attitude. Those who don't understand or think it's weird have probably never had to care for someone with such a severe disability (i try my best to help out relatives who have a disabled child but i struggle to do it for more than a few hours at a time).
- WhitneyLand 10y agoSure, there will always be people who don't make the connection. Just like there are people who scale approval of their children based on accomplishments in sports, academics, or whatever. I'm pretty sure that's a minority though. I'm involved in an organization where I interact with lots of ASD families and anecdotally at least there are not many regrets. The best way I know to explain it is this: http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html