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> We take care of our own as best we can, and people fall through the cracks This statement disgusts me. I struggled immensely transitioning from combat to civ

> We take care of our own as best we can, and people fall through the cracks This statement disgusts me. I struggled immensely transitioning from combat to civilian life. Nobody helped until years later I got lucky and someone referred me to a preacher who was also a therapist. The VA threw pills at myself and my brothers. Some of them are dead now. Some took their own lives on purpose, others on accident living dangerously. Some have spent time in prison for turning violent. I count myself incredibly lucky that I didn't kill anyone and wind up in prison. I'm so upset by your comment. It's so wrong. Killing people, getting killed, being constantly in threat of mortal danger, these things break our brains. We do not take care of our own the best we can. We do a shit job of it IMO.

james-watson 10y ago
Tell me, friend, how does a group of people enforce their rights within a country against those who wish to deny those rights? ISIS wants a global Islamic caliphate, along with a Caliph at its head and Sharia law. They want this in the US, Europe, and every other country on the planet. They do not negotiate, because they believe they carry out the will of an omnipotent deity. And most importantly, they will brutally slaughter anyone who stands in their way. So, how do we defend our rights to a different way of life, against those who would kill us for it? Oh, and a cursory glance at history would be educational. Pacifism is a great idea, until it isn't.
- mereWords 10y ago
  History, history, history. Observed as an apparition conjured in a vacuum, ISIS really looks like such a beast, that no one could have created it or prevented it, right? It seems like such an alien organization, that it must have always existed, but we know that's not true. But let's suspend disbelief, cast aside rational thought, grab a gun and do something, because something like this requires direct action before it's too late! Not really. It's just smoke an mirrors. The country was deliberately destroyed for no reason. Iraq has been transformed into the mutilated free fire zone it is, because there was a good excuse for it, at the time, and there might never have been a better chance like that, to get away with destroying Iraq like there was at that moment. So now panic about ISIS, right? Panic about the bad guys. Let people initiate opportunistic wars in 2003, so we can panic about the results in 2016? Doesn't something about that seem a little odd?
  - rokosbasilisk 10y ago
    To be fair the news media spent an enormous time and effort to legitimize the iraq war. The original "fake news" that really destroyed credibility.
    - ryanmarsh 10y ago
      Yah. That's the irony of the whole fake news thing.
- ryanmarsh 10y ago
  Non-sequitur
bootload 10y ago
"I'm so upset by your comment. It's so wrong. Killing people, getting killed, being constantly in threat of mortal danger, these things break our brains." One thing I keep in mind, thinking about this stuff is proximity to violence. The closer, the greater the damage. A cushioning factor, the people around you. When the group of people who serve are a small percentage of the population this becomes a big problem. There are no modern rituals for warriors to re-integrate back into society. That's also problem that could be addressed. In 2015 and 2016 a new ritual, ^Vets Town Hall^ [0][1] started. Given a chance talking at a place like this at least, gives Veterans like yourself a voice. It also gives civilians, like myself a chance to hear you. [0] https://moulton.house.gov/legislative-center/congressman-moulton-to-host-2nd-annual-veterans-day-town-hall-in-marblehead/ https://moulton.house.gov/legislative-center/congressman-mou... [1] http://www.vetstownhall.org/about http://www.vetstownhall.org/about
- mercer 10y ago
  I believe your (excellent) point also applies to the broader issue of mental health. Based on being around and close to many people with mental health problems (and, to some degree, based on my personal experience), a major problem is transitioning back into society after prolonged periods of 'problems' and/or therapy. Quite a number of them struggled for years to get back into some kind of 'normal' life, if they managed to do so at all. In a few cases I've even wondered if they'd been better off not being treated and labeled and instead figuring out over time how to cope or deal with their problems in better ways. It's like breaking a leg and - after it being fixed and healed - being sent home without any physical therapy or instructions on how to regain muscle strength, and everyone expects you to just get up and walk like they do. Now, and I can't emphasize this enough, I'm not saying that therapy is a bad idea. In many cases it's absolutely necessary and in most cases it's the best we can do what with our limited understanding of the mind and the society/reality we live in. But still, I wonder if the success rate of treatment for things like depression, addiction, and many other problems would be significantly higher if we put more effort into the rehabilitation process, both as 'caregivers' and as a society. It's difficult to raise this issue without getting into the problem of the hyper-individualistic nature of (western) society though, which I think lies at the root of this issue (and perhaps at the root of many mental health issues). Perhaps we've prized and institutionalized freedom of choice and self-sufficiency so much that we forgot how to deal with those who, for various reasons, are unable to.
dumb-saint 10y ago
With no lack of empathy for the veterans (of all countries) and the horrible things they go through... Don't you guys ask yourself how come you are always at war? Why you have "generations of veterans", even though you have by far the most powerful military force to ever have existed? There is no credible conventional threat to the US, and there is no unconventional one that can be mitigated by fighting a war. Not participating in unnecessary wars would help the mental health of soldiers much more than therapy or whatever else.
- 13of40 10y ago
  > Don't you guys ask yourself how come you are always at war? Actually, I'm a veteran, son of a veteran, son of a son of a veteran, and we all served in between wars, so we're not exactly "always at war". But all bullshit aside, why would you lay that kind of blame on the people who rolled the dice (choosing between enlisting and working at DQ to pay off their double-wide) and now have to go out and do the job, versus the people who are making a profit every time we shoot off a $200K TOW round? There are, like, half a dozen people in the Army who could raise their hand and say "let's have a war" and have it actually mean anything, but you're asking veterans why they fight wars.
  - dumb-saint 10y ago
    Oh, I think you misunderstood me. I don't blame the people who enlist at all. I also point my finger at the profit-makers. When I say "you guys" I mean "Americans". All of you. PS: What a weird thing to down vote this post -- it simply clarifies my initial message.
    - james-watson 10y ago
      Ah yes, because average Americans control US geopolitical strategy.
      - dumb-saint 10y ago
        So you gave up on democracy?
enraged_camel 10y ago
I hope the OP responds to your comment. I have a feeling he won't, though.
- bootload 10y ago
  "I hope the OP responds to your comment. I have a feeling he won't, though" Trying to pit man against man, service against service? There's a concept that isn't understood enough. Respect, "Respect behind the wire". You'll find this in military circles because? [0] [0] Why? In tribes, your survival may depend on someone else helping you ~ http://bigthink.com/videos/sebastian-junger-on-tribalism-and-democracy http://bigthink.com/videos/sebastian-junger-on-tribalism-and...
- ryanmarsh 10y ago
  Dont start shit
AndrewKemendo 10y ago
What exactly is "Disgusting" about it? Notice the as best we can... I'm speaking specifically about your teammates and CoC. I'm not talking about the VA, VSOs and the rest - we know their failures but I have to acknowledge that they are massively beneficial if you take advantage of them. No one disputes that there are major challenges to coming back to society from war, especially with TBI or otherwise. So nobody is making light of that. The point here however is that the TBI/PTSD serviceman shouldn't be what comes to mind when people think "War Veteran." The majority of war veterans are not broken by it. We need to take care of those who were, but they shouldn't define the rest of us and it doesn't do those with disabilities a service for that to be the narrative. Happy to talk offline if you're still looking for help, send me a note.
- ryanmarsh 10y ago
  I think people should think of war as something that breaks people, something that has an immense cost. Frankly more combat vets come back with issues than don't.

james-watson 10y ago

Tell me, friend, how does a group of people enforce their rights within a country against those who wish to deny those rights? ISIS wants a global Islamic caliphate, along with a Caliph at its head and Sharia law. They want this in the US, Europe, and every other country on the planet. They do not negotiate, because they believe they carry out the will of an omnipotent deity. And most importantly, they will brutally slaughter anyone who stands in their way. So, how do we defend our rights to a different way of life, against those who would kill us for it? Oh, and a cursory glance at history would be educational. Pacifism is a great idea, until it isn't.

mereWords 10y ago
History, history, history. Observed as an apparition conjured in a vacuum, ISIS really looks like such a beast, that no one could have created it or prevented it, right? It seems like such an alien organization, that it must have always existed, but we know that's not true. But let's suspend disbelief, cast aside rational thought, grab a gun and do something, because something like this requires direct action before it's too late! Not really. It's just smoke an mirrors. The country was deliberately destroyed for no reason. Iraq has been transformed into the mutilated free fire zone it is, because there was a good excuse for it, at the time, and there might never have been a better chance like that, to get away with destroying Iraq like there was at that moment. So now panic about ISIS, right? Panic about the bad guys. Let people initiate opportunistic wars in 2003, so we can panic about the results in 2016? Doesn't something about that seem a little odd?
- rokosbasilisk 10y ago
  To be fair the news media spent an enormous time and effort to legitimize the iraq war. The original "fake news" that really destroyed credibility.
  - ryanmarsh 10y ago
    Yah. That's the irony of the whole fake news thing.
ryanmarsh 10y ago
Non-sequitur

bootload 10y ago

"I'm so upset by your comment. It's so wrong. Killing people, getting killed, being constantly in threat of mortal danger, these things break our brains." One thing I keep in mind, thinking about this stuff is proximity to violence. The closer, the greater the damage. A cushioning factor, the people around you. When the group of people who serve are a small percentage of the population this becomes a big problem. There are no modern rituals for warriors to re-integrate back into society. That's also problem that could be addressed. In 2015 and 2016 a new ritual, ^Vets Town Hall^ [0][1] started. Given a chance talking at a place like this at least, gives Veterans like yourself a voice. It also gives civilians, like myself a chance to hear you. [0] https://moulton.house.gov/legislative-center/congressman-moulton-to-host-2nd-annual-veterans-day-town-hall-in-marblehead/ https://moulton.house.gov/legislative-center/congressman-mou... [1] http://www.vetstownhall.org/about http://www.vetstownhall.org/about

mercer 10y ago
I believe your (excellent) point also applies to the broader issue of mental health. Based on being around and close to many people with mental health problems (and, to some degree, based on my personal experience), a major problem is transitioning back into society after prolonged periods of 'problems' and/or therapy. Quite a number of them struggled for years to get back into some kind of 'normal' life, if they managed to do so at all. In a few cases I've even wondered if they'd been better off not being treated and labeled and instead figuring out over time how to cope or deal with their problems in better ways. It's like breaking a leg and - after it being fixed and healed - being sent home without any physical therapy or instructions on how to regain muscle strength, and everyone expects you to just get up and walk like they do. Now, and I can't emphasize this enough, I'm not saying that therapy is a bad idea. In many cases it's absolutely necessary and in most cases it's the best we can do what with our limited understanding of the mind and the society/reality we live in. But still, I wonder if the success rate of treatment for things like depression, addiction, and many other problems would be significantly higher if we put more effort into the rehabilitation process, both as 'caregivers' and as a society. It's difficult to raise this issue without getting into the problem of the hyper-individualistic nature of (western) society though, which I think lies at the root of this issue (and perhaps at the root of many mental health issues). Perhaps we've prized and institutionalized freedom of choice and self-sufficiency so much that we forgot how to deal with those who, for various reasons, are unable to.

dumb-saint 10y ago

With no lack of empathy for the veterans (of all countries) and the horrible things they go through... Don't you guys ask yourself how come you are always at war? Why you have "generations of veterans", even though you have by far the most powerful military force to ever have existed? There is no credible conventional threat to the US, and there is no unconventional one that can be mitigated by fighting a war. Not participating in unnecessary wars would help the mental health of soldiers much more than therapy or whatever else.

13of40 10y ago
> Don't you guys ask yourself how come you are always at war? Actually, I'm a veteran, son of a veteran, son of a son of a veteran, and we all served in between wars, so we're not exactly "always at war". But all bullshit aside, why would you lay that kind of blame on the people who rolled the dice (choosing between enlisting and working at DQ to pay off their double-wide) and now have to go out and do the job, versus the people who are making a profit every time we shoot off a $200K TOW round? There are, like, half a dozen people in the Army who could raise their hand and say "let's have a war" and have it actually mean anything, but you're asking veterans why they fight wars.
- dumb-saint 10y ago
  Oh, I think you misunderstood me. I don't blame the people who enlist at all. I also point my finger at the profit-makers. When I say "you guys" I mean "Americans". All of you. PS: What a weird thing to down vote this post -- it simply clarifies my initial message.
  - james-watson 10y ago
    Ah yes, because average Americans control US geopolitical strategy.
    - dumb-saint 10y ago
      So you gave up on democracy?

enraged_camel 10y ago

I hope the OP responds to your comment. I have a feeling he won't, though.

bootload 10y ago
"I hope the OP responds to your comment. I have a feeling he won't, though" Trying to pit man against man, service against service? There's a concept that isn't understood enough. Respect, "Respect behind the wire". You'll find this in military circles because? [0] [0] Why? In tribes, your survival may depend on someone else helping you ~ http://bigthink.com/videos/sebastian-junger-on-tribalism-and-democracy http://bigthink.com/videos/sebastian-junger-on-tribalism-and...
ryanmarsh 10y ago
Dont start shit

AndrewKemendo 10y ago

What exactly is "Disgusting" about it? Notice the as best we can... I'm speaking specifically about your teammates and CoC. I'm not talking about the VA, VSOs and the rest - we know their failures but I have to acknowledge that they are massively beneficial if you take advantage of them. No one disputes that there are major challenges to coming back to society from war, especially with TBI or otherwise. So nobody is making light of that. The point here however is that the TBI/PTSD serviceman shouldn't be what comes to mind when people think "War Veteran." The majority of war veterans are not broken by it. We need to take care of those who were, but they shouldn't define the rest of us and it doesn't do those with disabilities a service for that to be the narrative. Happy to talk offline if you're still looking for help, send me a note.

ryanmarsh 10y ago
I think people should think of war as something that breaks people, something that has an immense cost. Frankly more combat vets come back with issues than don't.