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Just quickly browsing through it, I didn't see anything anti-male. It did strike me that there are many female posters there. Can you point out what you mean sp

by 3131s 10y ago

Just quickly browsing through it, I didn't see anything anti-male. It did strike me that there are many female posters there. Can you point out what you mean specifically?

akvadrako 10y ago
How about the first sentence, "Women are expected to regulate the emotions of men as well as themselves." And the first comment, "Anyhow — men who don’t understand their entire emotional range are prone to anger because they can’t meet their own needs." And the 2nd comment, "I also wonder if that guy wonders if his girlfriends ever had to hire sex workers to manage their emotional needs before they met him." I don't understand how you can't see it's a one-sided echo chamber.
- pessimizer 10y ago
  What exactly do you object to in any of those three sentences as being sexist? I don't understand what anti-male means to you.
  - akvadrako 10y ago
    They are implying that women are better than men.
  - philipov 10y ago
    There is a type of person who is so oblivious to the plight of others, he thinks any criticism of his privilege[0] is a form of sexism. That is what anti-male means to them. [0]: (The luxury to be oblivious is itself a manifestation of privilege.)
  - antisthenes 10y ago
    You must be trolling. The entire thread is women finding reasons in everything but themselves at all the possible plights in real life. Also the idea that women are emotionally regulating 2 people in most relationships is such nonsense that it doesn't even deserve discussion.
- tkxxx7 10y ago
  Making comments about certain kinds of men does not equal "women are better than men". Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night.
  - dang 10y ago
    > Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night. You made a substantive point and then ruined it with a personal attack. Please don't do that—it breaks the HN guidelines and makes the thread even worse. Your comment would be fine with just the first sentence. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
    - webmaven 10y ago
      >> Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night. > You made a substantive point and then ruined it with a personal attack. Can you explain what makes this a personal attack? I support the policy wholeheartedly, but this doesn't seem (to me) to be a violation of it. I mean, it is mildly rude, but seems a lot closer to "X is left as an excersise for the reader" or "please Read The Friendly Manual", than it is to something like "go fsck yourself" (which would be extremely rude, but still not a personal attack per-se).
    - mSparks 10y ago
      please take your life somewhere else.

by 3131s 10y ago

Just quickly browsing through it, I didn't see anything anti-male. It did strike me that there are many female posters there. Can you point out what you mean specifically?

akvadrako 10y ago

How about the first sentence, "Women are expected to regulate the emotions of men as well as themselves." And the first comment, "Anyhow — men who don’t understand their entire emotional range are prone to anger because they can’t meet their own needs." And the 2nd comment, "I also wonder if that guy wonders if his girlfriends ever had to hire sex workers to manage their emotional needs before they met him." I don't understand how you can't see it's a one-sided echo chamber.

pessimizer 10y ago
What exactly do you object to in any of those three sentences as being sexist? I don't understand what anti-male means to you.
- akvadrako 10y ago
  They are implying that women are better than men.
- philipov 10y ago
  There is a type of person who is so oblivious to the plight of others, he thinks any criticism of his privilege[0] is a form of sexism. That is what anti-male means to them. [0]: (The luxury to be oblivious is itself a manifestation of privilege.)
- antisthenes 10y ago
  You must be trolling. The entire thread is women finding reasons in everything but themselves at all the possible plights in real life. Also the idea that women are emotionally regulating 2 people in most relationships is such nonsense that it doesn't even deserve discussion.
tkxxx7 10y ago
Making comments about certain kinds of men does not equal "women are better than men". Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night.
- dang 10y ago
  > Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night. You made a substantive point and then ruined it with a personal attack. Please don't do that—it breaks the HN guidelines and makes the thread even worse. Your comment would be fine with just the first sentence. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
  - webmaven 10y ago
    >> Feel free to mutter "not all men", to yourself, every night. > You made a substantive point and then ruined it with a personal attack. Can you explain what makes this a personal attack? I support the policy wholeheartedly, but this doesn't seem (to me) to be a violation of it. I mean, it is mildly rude, but seems a lot closer to "X is left as an excersise for the reader" or "please Read The Friendly Manual", than it is to something like "go fsck yourself" (which would be extremely rude, but still not a personal attack per-se).
  - mSparks 10y ago
    please take your life somewhere else.