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I will say that my limited connections comes from mutual hate and not mutual interests. Not sure if that is good or bad.

• soneca 10y ago
  My (not so limited) connections come from continuously contact, not common interests or hates. Very different, oposing views and values can break a relationship. Very similar views cannot make them - only if this similarity leads to continuous contact. My friends come from: childhood neighboors, two student organizations I was part of and college soccer team. Each of these environments allowed for years long contact with the same people. And from that came friendships. Not from similar anything. Friendships are born from tedious hours of boring conversation with random people that only happened because no one there had nothing else better to do. That comfortable feeling of having a meaningful relationship only comes years after that.
  • yomly 10y ago
    Agree with this, circumstance can accelerate this process: sharing some mutual experience like going on a tour or living in a foreign country can leave you making friends with people you would probably never have associated with back home
    • karmelapple 10y ago
      As mentioned elsewhere: meetup.com If you live in a community too small to have a meetup, make one yourself and see if anyone attends. I did it, fully expecting not a single person to show up. I met so many people through that, starting in a community of under 70,000 people.