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The most natural state is to remain with your family until you form your own family. I have never understood the stigma attached to adult children living at ho

The most natural state is to remain with your family until you form your own family. I have never understood the stigma attached to adult children living at home. Admittedly, this might very well be because I have lived in multiple cultures, most of which don't have this antagonistic "kick them out of the house" relationship between parents and adult kids. The other side of that story is that, yes, if an adult kid has opportunities that might take the kid away from the family home it could make total sense to move out. One example is getting into a really good university on the other side of the country. I personally believe that the family connection is crucially important and it must remain as intact as possible until the adult children are ready to form their own families. There is no better incubator for future good people than a good family life.

rhapsodic 10y ago
> personally believe that the family connection is crucially important and it must remain as intact as possible until the adult children are ready to form their own families. There is no better incubator for future good people than a good family life. I think there's something to be said for living on your own, cooking your own meals, doing your own laundry and housework, paying your own living expenses, and managing your own finances, before taking the plunge into a situation where it's non-optional. (E.g. a marriage.)
- rebootthesystem 10y ago
  The things you mention are incompatible with adult children staying at home longer. The secret is to have some of those things be part of normal life from when they are little. Bring the laundry to the washing machine. Help fold it. Help cook Help clean, etc. Not that difficult. The financial side can be introduced initially through games and later on in different ways. It just takes forethought and consistency. And it doesn't have to be punishment but rather part of normal life.
  - rebootthesystem 10y ago
    Damn iOS auto-correct...that was suppose to say "compatible".

rhapsodic 10y ago

> personally believe that the family connection is crucially important and it must remain as intact as possible until the adult children are ready to form their own families. There is no better incubator for future good people than a good family life. I think there's something to be said for living on your own, cooking your own meals, doing your own laundry and housework, paying your own living expenses, and managing your own finances, before taking the plunge into a situation where it's non-optional. (E.g. a marriage.)

rebootthesystem 10y ago
The things you mention are incompatible with adult children staying at home longer. The secret is to have some of those things be part of normal life from when they are little. Bring the laundry to the washing machine. Help fold it. Help cook Help clean, etc. Not that difficult. The financial side can be introduced initially through games and later on in different ways. It just takes forethought and consistency. And it doesn't have to be punishment but rather part of normal life.
- rebootthesystem 10y ago
  Damn iOS auto-correct...that was suppose to say "compatible".