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Traditionally, Sufis have referred to this as: "White Veil Evil." As opposed to, say, malicious narcissism which doesn't care to appear good. A more modern term
by Nomentatus 10y ago
Traditionally, Sufis have referred to this as: "White Veil Evil." As opposed to, say, malicious narcissism which doesn't care to appear good. A more modern term that subsumes "White Knighting" would be "moral narcissism," that is, trying to appear useful, noble and good; as opposed to considering carefully whether your words or actions will actually benefit others.
In my experience, men who interject themselves unnecessarily to demonstrate how politically correct they are, also have no problem interrupting women at other times. Constantly, in fact. Interjecting yourself is just another form of interrupting women. Which is probably the most destructive common habit of most workplaces, sadly.
The rule that keeps one from being a narcissist (of whatever variety), or behaving like one, is to ask: "Am I trying to please others, here or have I carefully considered all the consequences of my action, and know that my actions will genuinely benefit them?"
It can be hard (embarrassing) to answer that question honestly, so that's why there are a lot of shameless narcissists walking around. Not all, but a great many of them, men.
Note that "narcissism" is not a synonym for "selfishness" (although it often ends up being selfish, perverse or destructive.) In fact narcissists can be said to have surrendered much of their moral and decision-making authority to others, by endlessly yearning to please and impress them.