Ehh.... I come from a family with a long Mormon history dating back to at least 1837-39 (depending on source) with multiple divisions of the family migrating to

Ehh.... I come from a family with a long Mormon history dating back to at least 1837-39 (depending on source) with multiple divisions of the family migrating to Utah during the mid 19th century from the U.S. East Coast, England, and even Iceland for religious reasons. Point being it's a culture I'm a bit familiar with (I was born and raised in Utah myself). I am not Mormon myself, and never joined the church, though I did attend for some time. I never felt any overt pressure from any family or friends to join the religion. Sure, some expressed disappointment, and certainly tried to nudge me that direction earlier in life. But I certainly was never ostracized or shunned in any way, even after it was clear I was not going to be a "prospect" for conversion (and yes, everyone gave up trying long ago). I have heard one or two stories along the lines of your assertion. And I have known a family that were not the "nice, warmhearted" stereotype being painted generally here either: though the misery they inflicted was primary directed inward and belief was not the issue. As much as I have come to find all religions at fundamental moral fault, it would be wrong not to say something here about a people, who in my experience, generally don't match what you're describing.