Dating sites and apps like Tinder are designed with hookups and casual sex in mind, not real relationships. As others have said, meeting someone through friends

Dating sites and apps like Tinder are designed with hookups and casual sex in mind, not real relationships. As others have said, meeting someone through friends is generally the best way, at least in my experience. Expand your social circle, go to meetups and events that interest you and you'll meet interesting people. Another thing: Don't limit your options to other techies. While it may seem like a good idea to be with someone who likes everything you like and works in the same field as you, that can actually get boring fast if there's little chemistry beyond a shared interest. My wife is not a techie by any definition and we rarely talk about hardware hacking and futurism (my main interests) because she would be bored to death. Otherwise, we have a lot of shared interests, and our philosophical and political views mesh well. We "met" via a mutual friend who knew both of us well enough to know we'd make for a great couple, and she encouraged us both to start talking long distance. When we finally met in person, we had already gotten past the awkward "so what do you like to do" phase, and it made dating easier and less stressful.