Something that may help is to turn what you see as bad physically into something that's good. For example, since you're balding, it may look better to sport a s

Something that may help is to turn what you see as bad physically into something that's good. For example, since you're balding, it may look better to sport a shaved head and see if you can accentuate that with facial hair (if you can grow it) and a hat. If I ever started balding I would probably just shave my head because I feel that it would be a strange look to see part of my head missing hair. I would imagine that balding makes you look older than you do since you're 31 and balding doesn't usually start until mid age, so shaving your head may "reduce" years from your look. Another important thing is to make sure you have good posture and confidence in your words. Make sure you stand up straight when walking but relax your shoulders lest you look like a police officer. And when talking to people in general (not just women) don't be afraid to show confidence in what you're talking about, be specific and upfront if you don't know something about a topic, and assert yourself in a conversation when appropriate. Also don't be afraid of silence in a conversation, it gives people in the conversation time to reflect on what was just discussed and possibly come up with another topic. Lastly, the best way to meet other people -- dating and a significant other is important but friends are probably more important in the long run -- is to find activities that you would enjoy and meet them through that. If you like or are interested in tennis, dancing (ballroom, Latin (salsa, bachata, tango), swing), swimming, hiking, etc., start doing them and see if you want to keep with it. Specifically for dancing, there are generally not a lot of good leaders (men) so if you get good you'll get a lot of attention if you progress and Seattle is a good city for specific kinds of dancing like Argentine tango. And don't forget to build friendships on the lookout for a relationship; I do believe that friendships are at least as important in the long run than a relationship so do not forget to build them along your journey. (Also as another commenter suggested, Tinder is not a good platform to find dates virtually. Okcupid is a better free service. I've heard positive things about Match.com but haven't tried it.)