I understand exactly how the OP feels. I still get like that, even when I have explicitly released something as open-source. The way I see it if someone contri

I understand exactly how the OP feels. I still get like that, even when I have explicitly released something as open-source. The way I see it if someone contributes to your codebase you still have the right, and the obligation, to veto that code if you don't feel it matches your philosophies and quality standards. Asserting your preferences is the only way the code is still going to be 'yours'. If your idea of good code matches up with other people's, great! If not, the code will still be 'your baby'.