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I'd add : why do you need to tease in the first place ? There's no reason to do that.

by wiz21c 10y ago

mistermann 10y ago
Humans do a lot of things that have "no reason".
orbitur 10y ago
I will never, ever defend anything like that in the workplace, but some people consider teasing and joking to relationship building. There's no reason for a lot of human interactions that are ultimately good for a subgroup's social bonds.
gedrap 10y ago
I'd say it depends on a lot of factors such as local culture, company culture (or team culture for larger companies), etc. So just saying 'there is no point' is probably not an answer.
- easuter 10y ago
  Precisely. It will also depend on how well you've grown to know and become friends with the people in question. Myself and my close friends curse, insult and tease each other in a manner that we find entertaining; however if I had this same type of interaction with someone I've only known for a couple of months it would be insulting and I'd avoid that person.
donatj 10y ago
I do think teasing, especially in cis male friendships, is very often a big piece of the bonding experience. It simply doesn't translate well to the work environment and should be left out.
brianpan 10y ago
Teasing is a social thing. And like other social things the reasons are not necessarily concrete and "rational". Why do you smile and say hello to a person you pass in the hall? You don't intend to start a conversion- there's no reason to say hello. There's no "reason" to be friendly at all. If you look at the social and emotional things happening, maybe it starts to make some sense. Smiling says, "Hi, I recognize you and you are an acquaintance/friend." Teasing is a way of interacting- of making bonds, of feeling people out. By teasing, you are finding out about someone: How much do they care about the subject of teasing? What kind of person are they? And you are saying, "I know you so I can playfully poke at things you care about." And maybe eventually, "I know you so well, I can poke at you in a sensitive area but not go too far. We can do that to each other because we trust each other's intent and we know how to poke in a way that doesn't go too far." Strangers don't have that kind of bond and trust. Besides that, teasing is joking. It can be simply harmless and funny and lightens the mood or improve the morale of a group. So, yes, there are reasons.

I'd add : why do you need to tease in the first place ? There's no reason to do that.

by wiz21c 10y ago

I'd add : why do you need to tease in the first place ? There's no reason to do that.

mistermann 10y ago

Humans do a lot of things that have "no reason".

orbitur 10y ago

I will never, ever defend anything like that in the workplace, but some people consider teasing and joking to relationship building. There's no reason for a lot of human interactions that are ultimately good for a subgroup's social bonds.

gedrap 10y ago

I'd say it depends on a lot of factors such as local culture, company culture (or team culture for larger companies), etc. So just saying 'there is no point' is probably not an answer.

easuter 10y ago
Precisely. It will also depend on how well you've grown to know and become friends with the people in question. Myself and my close friends curse, insult and tease each other in a manner that we find entertaining; however if I had this same type of interaction with someone I've only known for a couple of months it would be insulting and I'd avoid that person.

donatj 10y ago

I do think teasing, especially in cis male friendships, is very often a big piece of the bonding experience. It simply doesn't translate well to the work environment and should be left out.

brianpan 10y ago

Teasing is a social thing. And like other social things the reasons are not necessarily concrete and "rational". Why do you smile and say hello to a person you pass in the hall? You don't intend to start a conversion- there's no reason to say hello. There's no "reason" to be friendly at all. If you look at the social and emotional things happening, maybe it starts to make some sense. Smiling says, "Hi, I recognize you and you are an acquaintance/friend." Teasing is a way of interacting- of making bonds, of feeling people out. By teasing, you are finding out about someone: How much do they care about the subject of teasing? What kind of person are they? And you are saying, "I know you so I can playfully poke at things you care about." And maybe eventually, "I know you so well, I can poke at you in a sensitive area but not go too far. We can do that to each other because we trust each other's intent and we know how to poke in a way that doesn't go too far." Strangers don't have that kind of bond and trust. Besides that, teasing is joking. It can be simply harmless and funny and lightens the mood or improve the morale of a group. So, yes, there are reasons.