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Maybe those communities were just dysfunctional, not nurturing, or the people making them up weren't good to be around anyway (in the sense of "you are the aver
by concinds 10y ago
Maybe those communities were just dysfunctional, not nurturing, or the people making them up weren't good to be around anyway (in the sense of "you are the average of the 5 people you hang out with most").
That doesn't indict communities and their social and emotional importance.
If anything, it proves GP's point. The coexistence of dysfunctional communities and no-community within a culture actually seems pretty congruent. It just points to both of these being caused by dysfunction in the culture.
- blackbagboys 10y agoIt's also entirely possible that parent is just an asshole and those communities are better off without him.
- Kalium 10y agoCommunities are of course important. A great many people find their communities critical to their social, emotional, and sometimes economic well-being. Nearly every community is healthy and wonderful if they're like you in the ways you care about and you have membership. Nearly every community is dysfunctional if it's different in the ways you care about and you lack membership. Most people I know seem to define "community" based purely on geography and some localist shared identity. I, personally, am not a fan of this. I find it too arbitrary and and far too likely to attempt to co-opt me into supporting things directly against understanding of my interests. I fully understand why some other people value such things. And yes, it's possible that I'm just an asshole that nobody ever wants in their community.