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What's the TLDR?
by estefan 10y ago
What's the TLDR?
- riazrizvi 10y agoThe more certain you are of how someone feels, the more you are attracted to them. Not only how they feel, but also how they are motivated. They conclude this from looking at patterns of neural activity.
- eli_gottlieb 10y agoBut most importantly, the "attraction" is an intrinsic reward signal generated by your own brain from judging that it understands another person well. The other person can't actually alter that intrinsic reward except by making their actions easier to understand.
- riazrizvi 10y agoHmm, that does seem most important.
- PlugTunin 10y agoIndeed, unpredictable people/situations, are less attractive.
- papapra 10y agoIt explains why being anxious or having low self-esteem is unattractive.
- duderific 10y agoWell, it sorta depends on how the anxiety or low self esteem manifests itself. If the person is aware of their anxiety and doesn't try to cover it with over-compensation in the other direction (excessive self assurance or arrogance), then it can be rather charming.
- papapra 10y agoMaybe just for the woman
- derefr 10y agoWould it suggest that like-attracts-like with mental illnesses? E.g., if you have ADHD, other people with ADHD will be more predictable to you than people without ADHD, so you'll prefer to date them?