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Men can reduce their decision making without attracting attention as the person who always wears the same clothing. * Pick a color palette for your shirts. Fou

by dsr_ 10y ago

Men can reduce their decision making without attracting attention as the person who always wears the same clothing. * Pick a color palette for your shirts. Four is enough. Buy multiples of those. * Get khakis and jeans. Multiples, again. All of your shirts will go with all of your pants. In the winter, wear jeans. In the summer, wear khakis. When you decide to cross over, put the other ones away. Women, however, seem to have much more pressure to consider fashion. Sorry; it's a societal construct. If you don't feel bad about it, exactly the same choices can work for you: pick a blouse in four colors, pick comfortable pants and jeans, be done with it.

johnchristopher 10y ago
I don't know. I have read posts here some months ago that advised men to get an hair coloring before interviews. Have you seen the photos of perfect six packs abdomen on underwear packaging ? Men are slowly getting into the same situation as women. Of course it's easier to not care at all about all of this when you are a billionaire.
amyjess 10y ago
> Women, however, seem to have much more pressure to consider fashion. As an MtF trans person, the blandness and lack of choice available in male clothing, especially professional male clothing, always felt like a straightjacket to me. The lack of options drove me up a wall, and I was either unenthused about or actively repulsed by the few options that were available. I think I ended up wearing a polo shirt and cargo pants most days, just because I couldn't muster up the effort to give a shit. Before I transitioned, I crossdressed in private just so I could wear something that I actually liked, even if it was just by myself in my house. Unfortunately, that actually delayed my accepting I was trans... for years, I told myself I was "just a crossdresser" because I thought "Well duh, who doesn't prefer women's clothes over men's? Of course every guy wants to be a girl because being a girl is just obviously better." Of course, that turned out to be a bunch of bupkiss, and cis guys just don't think that way, but it took me so many years to realize that. I didn't start giving a shit about how I looked in public until I transitioned. Finally, I could wear things that I thought looked good, and I actually had meaningful options.
- dsr_ 10y ago
  Well... this is a thread about reducing options in order to not make decisions. Men actually have lots of options, but are frequently limited by the same social pressures that cause women to have to make more choices. For example: a UtiliKilt, or actual kilt. Bermuda shorts. A sarong or laplap -- that will cause comment in most of the US, but is perfectly normal in much of the Asian Pacific. A guayabera or a Hawaiian print shirt; vests and sweaters and cardigans and jackets. Your point about "professional male clothing" is very well-taken, though. Women have many more options.

by dsr_ 10y ago

johnchristopher 10y ago

I don't know. I have read posts here some months ago that advised men to get an hair coloring before interviews. Have you seen the photos of perfect six packs abdomen on underwear packaging ? Men are slowly getting into the same situation as women. Of course it's easier to not care at all about all of this when you are a billionaire.

amyjess 10y ago

> Women, however, seem to have much more pressure to consider fashion. As an MtF trans person, the blandness and lack of choice available in male clothing, especially professional male clothing, always felt like a straightjacket to me. The lack of options drove me up a wall, and I was either unenthused about or actively repulsed by the few options that were available. I think I ended up wearing a polo shirt and cargo pants most days, just because I couldn't muster up the effort to give a shit. Before I transitioned, I crossdressed in private just so I could wear something that I actually liked, even if it was just by myself in my house. Unfortunately, that actually delayed my accepting I was trans... for years, I told myself I was "just a crossdresser" because I thought "Well duh, who doesn't prefer women's clothes over men's? Of course every guy wants to be a girl because being a girl is just obviously better." Of course, that turned out to be a bunch of bupkiss, and cis guys just don't think that way, but it took me so many years to realize that. I didn't start giving a shit about how I looked in public until I transitioned. Finally, I could wear things that I thought looked good, and I actually had meaningful options.

dsr_ 10y ago
Well... this is a thread about reducing options in order to not make decisions. Men actually have lots of options, but are frequently limited by the same social pressures that cause women to have to make more choices. For example: a UtiliKilt, or actual kilt. Bermuda shorts. A sarong or laplap -- that will cause comment in most of the US, but is perfectly normal in much of the Asian Pacific. A guayabera or a Hawaiian print shirt; vests and sweaters and cardigans and jackets. Your point about "professional male clothing" is very well-taken, though. Women have many more options.