In summary the takeaway would be "you only understand the importance of something when you lose it" thus those kids who won the game despite receiving good advi

In summary the takeaway would be "you only understand the importance of something when you lose it" thus those kids who won the game despite receiving good advice thought that it was normal somehow to the point of not acknowledging the help they've got as they succeed anyways, but those who lost recognize that good advice would have helped them. I hope I understood it correctly.