Good point. My dad with his behavior might have gotten me and my brother to behave. But the problem is that it permanently destroyed his relationship with us an

Good point. My dad with his behavior might have gotten me and my brother to behave. But the problem is that it permanently destroyed his relationship with us and caused issues for us later in life. I do keep in touch with my dad and care about him but I can never really be close to him because of they way he has always acted. I think people have to realize that kids also have to be kids. One can't expect them to be as quiet and well behaved as grown ups. I am very much against the popularity of French child raising as it seems to frequently create subdued children, who can sit quiet at the restaurant but who has lost the spark. I remember some fellow Norwegians married into a french family comment on how when they were at a park the Norwegian kids ran around and had fun and the French kids looked at dumbfound with: You can do that?! Can we do that as well? I assume this is not the average behavior. Or I hope, but I think it gives an idea of how you don't want your kids to end up.