The core of the article is hard to disagree with: positive reinforcement is much more important effective than punishment. But what if the kid just doesn't wan

The core of the article is hard to disagree with: positive reinforcement is much more important effective than punishment. But what if the kid just doesn't want to do what you want to reinforce? Just repeating your preferred choices aren't going to work. Kids are not stupid: they can tell that you're just trying to ignore what they want and push your choices. They'll frequently resist either actively or passively. My approach to my son is: I praise him when he does something that looks right to me. When I disagree, I argue and reason with him like an adult. I try to project him on the receiving end to show how he's being unreasonable. A large part of it is just understanding the kid's temperament and style of thinking and finding out effective ways of dealing with it through experimentation. A lot of empathy. When they see you're trying to understand their frustration they become more thoughtful. This article has many good ideas but generalizing them sounds like an immature approach.