You are comparing a 4 yo to an 18(?) yo. Should a 4 yo be allowed to live alone? Drive a car? Date? It is about choice and responsibillity on a suitable level

You are comparing a 4 yo to an 18(?) yo. Should a 4 yo be allowed to live alone? Drive a car? Date? It is about choice and responsibillity on a suitable level for the maturity of the child. And a parent-child relationship is very different from an adult-adult relationship either way. Your commen makes absolutely no sense.