I believe all emotions are instinct. Rallying against your emotions, trying to elicit one over another by simply attempting to force yourself to believe somethi

I believe all emotions are instinct. Rallying against your emotions, trying to elicit one over another by simply attempting to force yourself to believe something is bound to fail, because instincts aren't logical. You have accept you're an animal and your emotions, aka your instincts, guide you to propagate the human race in a way that worked ten thousands of years ago, but no longer works now. One of the most powerful principles is that your instincts attempt to follow is to keep the same pattern of things that worked before. Why are you attracted to someone who shares traits of your parents, even self-destructive ones? For that matter, why do you share these same psychological traits? Genes? Bah! It's because what happened, what you were exposed to, regardless of how painful it was, resulted in you being born. So instinctively, it's a good choice. And to expand on that, this instinctive trait to emulate your parents were within your parents, so your parents did much to emulate their parents, and on and on. So the mere presence of this instinct in your lineage is very strong evidence that it helps keep your lineage alive. You can see this pattern of behaviour by watching animals. In absence of other problems, they'll follow the same pattern day after day, they'll search the same areas for food, sleep in the same places they did before, etc. It's the safest thing to do, and it's very popular. If you catch a mouse and release it a mile from your home, it will find its way back to your very same property, regardless of better habitats that may exist along the way. Any attempt to internally debate your desire to follow your instincts, is bound to fail. As soon as the argument seems settled in your favour, and you no longer think about it, you will find yourself creeping back to your own patterns. So how do you combat this? The answer is continual exposure to alternative thinking patterns. You have to expose yourself over and over again to different thoughts and ideas from what you've been absorbing from your childhood, and never let up. I'd recommend subliminal audio, which you can listen to while working or doing other things. It also is something you can continue to do for years without spending much effort. You can find a lot of it on youtube, search for "george hutton".