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Interesting to me is that in the US most parents want to give their kids the boot at 18. In India, where my wife is from, family lives together. Family is a bi

by X86BSD 10y ago

Interesting to me is that in the US most parents want to give their kids the boot at 18. In India, where my wife is from, family lives together. Family is a big thing there. It is not uncommon to see mom and dad, daughter and son, grandmas and grandpas, or even aunts and uncles all living in the same home.

vayarajesh 10y ago
Yes, it is very common to live as a big family together in the same house. Infact it might be considered rare where children do not live with their parents and siblings. It is a part of a culture than anything else. I think many Asian countries have similar culture. I am from India but live in Dubai and even in middle eastern cultures it is not uncommon to live with parents and other relatives in the same house as a big family.
AndrewKemendo 10y ago
Interesting to me is that in the US most parents want to give their kids the boot at 18 Well we want to give them the boot earlier but the timing of higher education and law generally sets the lower bar at 18.
- internaut 10y ago
  You might want to rethink that. That cultural value makes sense when there is broadly rising economic activity. In my experience parents and their children are operating in two completely different economies. To be blunt in case I risk being overly oblique: 1/3 of the female students at my university did sex work to pay the rent. That's in a place where they worked hard to get into an elite university and didn't have to pay extraordinary tuition fees. Further down the socioeconomic ladder it gets worse. Merely surviving without debt is a success story for a millennial. I have to say: almost everything on this subject I read from the media is a fiction. I'm not saying the stats are made up, but the overwhelming impression you get from the box on the wall is powerfully wrong.
  - GuiA 10y ago
    In which city (or country, if city is too specific) did you go to university?
    - internaut 10y ago
      The UK, at a red brick (that's the British Ivy League). The basic cost of living (rent/council tax/water bills/food prices) has been gradually inflating while the cost of labour increased at a far more modest rate. This has been true for a long time. I think because it is a creeping thing it is harder to spot when the new normal began. Anecdotal but several degree holders I knew in college (mostly accountants!) continue with prostitution afterwards as well because it is otherwise difficult to make ends meet. The explanation I'm partial to is that the price of energy has stalled progress for most people in western society. When you look back to 1973 it is really quite dramatic but we are now used to high prices and the various accommodations made as side affects. I know most people my age see 2008 as a break point, but the rot has been going on for much longer than that.
  - ternaryoperator 10y ago
    I believe Mr. Kemendo is being facecious.
    - AndrewKemendo 10y ago
      That's a bingo.
  - jstanley 10y ago
    > 1/3 of the female students at my university did sex work to pay the rent I find it hard to believe there's enough customers to make this viable, let alone that it actually happens. Do you have some source to back this claim up?
    - DanBC 10y ago
      One study by Swansea claimed that it's 1 in 20 students. That covered the whole spectrum of sex work. http://www.thestudentsexworkproject.co.uk/ http://www.thestudentsexworkproject.co.uk/ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/11499381/Student-sex-work-the-secret-industry-in-Britains-universities.html http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/11499381/Student-sex-wo... http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/student-sex-workers-talk-about-the-job http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/student-sex-workers-talk-abou...
zanny 10y ago
This is purely a product of the post-war boom era. Before the 50s, Americans behaved predominantly the same way - children would even be married while living under the parents roof up into their 30s. But once it was financially tenable in the unique financial circumstances of post-WW2 America for pretty much any man that wanted to could get a job with no education that gave him the financial means to "have it all". Gradually the economy corrected itself, but there is a lot of cultural weight on the idea of success associated with living in your own home, regardless of the feasibility financially.
pertymcpert 10y ago
Is that really true? Will they actually be forced out at that age as a common occurrence??

by X86BSD 10y ago

vayarajesh 10y ago

Yes, it is very common to live as a big family together in the same house. Infact it might be considered rare where children do not live with their parents and siblings. It is a part of a culture than anything else. I think many Asian countries have similar culture. I am from India but live in Dubai and even in middle eastern cultures it is not uncommon to live with parents and other relatives in the same house as a big family.

AndrewKemendo 10y ago

Interesting to me is that in the US most parents want to give their kids the boot at 18 Well we want to give them the boot earlier but the timing of higher education and law generally sets the lower bar at 18.

internaut 10y ago
You might want to rethink that. That cultural value makes sense when there is broadly rising economic activity. In my experience parents and their children are operating in two completely different economies. To be blunt in case I risk being overly oblique: 1/3 of the female students at my university did sex work to pay the rent. That's in a place where they worked hard to get into an elite university and didn't have to pay extraordinary tuition fees. Further down the socioeconomic ladder it gets worse. Merely surviving without debt is a success story for a millennial. I have to say: almost everything on this subject I read from the media is a fiction. I'm not saying the stats are made up, but the overwhelming impression you get from the box on the wall is powerfully wrong.
- GuiA 10y ago
  In which city (or country, if city is too specific) did you go to university?
  - internaut 10y ago
    The UK, at a red brick (that's the British Ivy League). The basic cost of living (rent/council tax/water bills/food prices) has been gradually inflating while the cost of labour increased at a far more modest rate. This has been true for a long time. I think because it is a creeping thing it is harder to spot when the new normal began. Anecdotal but several degree holders I knew in college (mostly accountants!) continue with prostitution afterwards as well because it is otherwise difficult to make ends meet. The explanation I'm partial to is that the price of energy has stalled progress for most people in western society. When you look back to 1973 it is really quite dramatic but we are now used to high prices and the various accommodations made as side affects. I know most people my age see 2008 as a break point, but the rot has been going on for much longer than that.
- ternaryoperator 10y ago
  I believe Mr. Kemendo is being facecious.
  - AndrewKemendo 10y ago
    That's a bingo.
- jstanley 10y ago
  > 1/3 of the female students at my university did sex work to pay the rent I find it hard to believe there's enough customers to make this viable, let alone that it actually happens. Do you have some source to back this claim up?
  - DanBC 10y ago
    One study by Swansea claimed that it's 1 in 20 students. That covered the whole spectrum of sex work. http://www.thestudentsexworkproject.co.uk/ http://www.thestudentsexworkproject.co.uk/ http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/11499381/Student-sex-work-the-secret-industry-in-Britains-universities.html http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/11499381/Student-sex-wo... http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/student-sex-workers-talk-about-the-job http://www.vice.com/en_uk/read/student-sex-workers-talk-abou...

zanny 10y ago

This is purely a product of the post-war boom era. Before the 50s, Americans behaved predominantly the same way - children would even be married while living under the parents roof up into their 30s. But once it was financially tenable in the unique financial circumstances of post-WW2 America for pretty much any man that wanted to could get a job with no education that gave him the financial means to "have it all". Gradually the economy corrected itself, but there is a lot of cultural weight on the idea of success associated with living in your own home, regardless of the feasibility financially.

pertymcpert 10y ago

Is that really true? Will they actually be forced out at that age as a common occurrence??