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Thanks. A problem occurs when the market gets too thin. I've had all my long term gfs leave me for much older richer men. As a guy I'm confident that I will bot

Thanks. A problem occurs when the market gets too thin. I've had all my long term gfs leave me for much older richer men. As a guy I'm confident that I will both get older and richer so I'll be fine. My greater concern is for the opposite effect on women and the gender dynamics in general.

maverick_iceman 10y ago
In SF I see a lot of 20-something women with 40-50 year old (rich) men. This was a bit surprising when I first came here. In no other cities I have seen this happening at such a large extent.
- tdb7893 10y ago
  That's part of why I'm not sure I want to move to SF. I'm from somewhere that is barely considered the suburbs of Chicago and my girlfriend is from a small farm in Iowa and I'm worried we wouldn't fit in. People spending lots of money kinda makes me uncomfortable.
  - figjamjam 10y ago
    I'm sure it'll be a different culture but that's part of the fun. My only advice would be to take promises of future buckets of money with a grain of salt.
  - edblarney 10y ago
    Yeah - 'young girls with older dudes' is not really so much a thing in SF, though it exists. There are 20 other reasons to be 'weary' of living in SF that are just easier to grasp, like 'rent'. Also - maybe I'm wrong but when I lived there it felt like 3 guys to every girl. At least the way social networks work because they are so tech-focused. But materialism is what it is ... so yes, you'll get some negative aspects from having clusters of money.
- figjamjam 10y ago
  Yup, it was an average of 20 years older to wealthy VCs who look like my dad. I don't get the appeal, feels like jumping right to the end of life. They did get good jobs out of it so there is that. The Battery, MaiTai, and other private clubs facilitate such encounters. Having been to cougar nights at The Rosewood I have a bit of an idea on how it ends and it's not pretty :(
  - maverick_iceman 10y ago
    I was totally bummed out by cougar nights at The Rosewood. Way too many people and not really a good place to enjoy yourself.
- edblarney 10y ago
  "In no other cities I have seen this happening at such a large extent." In Latin Europe and South America it's quite common. Not so much in US. Not even really in SF as much as Spain or Italy.
- CPLX 10y ago
  Come visit us in NYC.
pavel_lishin 10y ago
> As a guy I'm confident that I will both get older and richer so I'll be fine. I hope this doesn't mean that you aspire to one day be the guy that girlfriends leave their boyfriends for.
- figjamjam 10y ago
  I'm off the market for the foreseeable future and plan on staying that way. So no.

maverick_iceman 10y ago

In SF I see a lot of 20-something women with 40-50 year old (rich) men. This was a bit surprising when I first came here. In no other cities I have seen this happening at such a large extent.

tdb7893 10y ago
That's part of why I'm not sure I want to move to SF. I'm from somewhere that is barely considered the suburbs of Chicago and my girlfriend is from a small farm in Iowa and I'm worried we wouldn't fit in. People spending lots of money kinda makes me uncomfortable.
- figjamjam 10y ago
  I'm sure it'll be a different culture but that's part of the fun. My only advice would be to take promises of future buckets of money with a grain of salt.
- edblarney 10y ago
  Yeah - 'young girls with older dudes' is not really so much a thing in SF, though it exists. There are 20 other reasons to be 'weary' of living in SF that are just easier to grasp, like 'rent'. Also - maybe I'm wrong but when I lived there it felt like 3 guys to every girl. At least the way social networks work because they are so tech-focused. But materialism is what it is ... so yes, you'll get some negative aspects from having clusters of money.
figjamjam 10y ago
Yup, it was an average of 20 years older to wealthy VCs who look like my dad. I don't get the appeal, feels like jumping right to the end of life. They did get good jobs out of it so there is that. The Battery, MaiTai, and other private clubs facilitate such encounters. Having been to cougar nights at The Rosewood I have a bit of an idea on how it ends and it's not pretty :(
- maverick_iceman 10y ago
  I was totally bummed out by cougar nights at The Rosewood. Way too many people and not really a good place to enjoy yourself.
edblarney 10y ago
"In no other cities I have seen this happening at such a large extent." In Latin Europe and South America it's quite common. Not so much in US. Not even really in SF as much as Spain or Italy.
CPLX 10y ago
Come visit us in NYC.

pavel_lishin 10y ago

> As a guy I'm confident that I will both get older and richer so I'll be fine. I hope this doesn't mean that you aspire to one day be the guy that girlfriends leave their boyfriends for.

figjamjam 10y ago
I'm off the market for the foreseeable future and plan on staying that way. So no.