Victim-blaming is an actual (horrible) thing that exists. But 99% of the time that you see someone use it (particularly on the Internet), "victim-blaming" is ju

Victim-blaming is an actual (horrible) thing that exists. But 99% of the time that you see someone use it (particularly on the Internet), "victim-blaming" is just shorthand for "This conversation is hopelessly beyond my comprehension but I'm able to pattern-match something that allows me to feel as if I'm part of the conversation (Bonus: I get to feel morally superior!)"