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> "3 out of 4 millennials get helped by parents" flipped is "1 out 4 parents of millennials don't help them." "Don't help them" != "don't care" so that's not i

• ChuckMcM 10y ago
  I am not attempting to deflect reaction, it is real and it is heartfelt and I understand how people reached the conclusion that I was insulting parents who did not provide financial support to their children. I wrote it poorly and had I been talking face to face with someone one I hope I would have seen them getting angry and immediately sought out the disagreement between what I thought I was saying and what was being heard. Here its a bit more difficult and it once again reminded me of that. To your specific criticism, you are correct that I added the connotation. When I read the original title I also added the connotation that "have received financial help" was "are slackers". And I disagreed with that strongly as well. You can receive help from your parents and not be a slacker. And I recognize that for some portion of the people reading here they read my headline inversion literally rather than as a critique because of the lack of context. If I were to rewrite it, it would have started with "I disagree strongly with the implication of the headline, you might as well write 1 in 4 parents don't help their millennial children and I would disagree with that too." And then we could talk about the poorly defined notion of "help" and the question of privilege and whether or not that is an objective thing or a subjective one, and if its objective how do we define it.