Focus on your physical health. It's no panacea, but it's the basis for feeling better about the world. People who discount you? Fuck them. Move on, before t

Focus on your physical health. It's no panacea, but it's the basis for feeling better about the world. People who discount you? Fuck them. Move on, before their attitude can infect you about yourself. It's taken me a long time, myself, to start to incorporate this into my own sense of being. I was always the "nice guy" who went out of his way to accommodate others. To pro-actively fix problems even when doing so caused me more strife than thanks. Feel better about yourself. People respond more positively to that than to anything else. It makes you seem "safe" to them. I know, it's a chicken and egg situation (which comes first?), to some extent. But most of my disappointments come from not taking care of myself, and people's responses to that. Also, my biggest regrets. So, make sure you are getting good physical activity. Explore medication if you believe it helps. (And, again, from personal experience, often it doesn't -- at least not a particular medication.) The world basically wants you to take care of yourself, first. Whatever is said -- whatever! This is the truth of the matter: Take care of yourself, to gain acceptance from others. And, the rare friend who accepts you for who you are, warts and all. They are indeed rare -- but they do exist. You take care of yourself for them, too, because you find yourself wanting to be a positive factor in their life. Hang in there. And find somewhere where you fit. Whatever that is. You deserve and need to make yourself happy -- content, at least. The rest follows from that. If you turn it around, make X goal -- particularly if X is making you miserable -- the pre-requisite to being happy? That is the recipe for failure. Best wishes! P.S. I struggle with social connectedness, as well. Yet it is the single thing that brings me the greatest happiness and peace in life. And you know what? It does not depend on any title or position. Not the connections that matter. It does both gain from and feed feeling better about yourself. If it's lacking, add it to the top of your list. Life first. Career and all that bullshit, second.