I set up my own mail server and was sending bulk email (opt-in) with relatively little experience. Set up dkim and spf, and you should be fine. A bit arcane, bu

I set up my own mail server and was sending bulk email (opt-in) with relatively little experience. Set up dkim and spf, and you should be fine. A bit arcane, but it's not the maintenance nightmare you imply. Once you get into automated bounce tracking, etc, it's a bit trickier, but no need to do that for personal email.