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Instead of trying to judge the person, how about we conceive of behaviors? They could be someone who cycles in and out of addictive or manic shopping. The wor
by crawfordcomeaux 10y ago
Instead of trying to judge the person, how about we conceive of behaviors?
They could be someone who cycles in and out of addictive or manic shopping. The word that comes to mind for me there is "tragic".
- Waterluvian 10y agoPeople being assholes, dicks, or just plain evil is probably the most exceptional of exceptions. It's considerably more likely that there's a much more complicated explanation that deserves understanding and compassion.
- eloel 10y agosome people do bad stuff, wake the fuck up.
- throwaway729 10y agoJudgmental characterizations aren't necessarily inconsistent with empathy and compassion. Especially in the context of an LEO. I probably wouldn't blindly trust someone who cycles in and out of addictive or manic shopping with a large line of credit or with carte blanc access to a lot of other people's valuables. Just because their addiction makes them untrustworthy doesn't mean they're a bad person. Also, using Amazon as a library isn't necessarily indicative of manic shopping. It could just be that the person is acting in their own self interest and not taking into account the effects of their actions on Amazon's other customers. Canceling valid CC charges has a lot of explanations -- maybe the person is just a habitual liar in way that's best thought of in a medical context. But in all of these cases, empathy and judgement can go hand-in-hand.
- crawfordcomeaux 10y agoI completely agree. In the future, I'd rather say I prefer to seek non-judgmental explanations before bringing judgment to the table, as it allows me to identify more potential scenarios.
- illirik 10y agoI have bipolar disorder, and many (if not most) people with bipolar shop to excess during manic phases. One person in my therapy group spends several thousand dollars on clothing, shoes, technology, etc. in a single day roughly twice per year, and then brings it all back the next day when he realizes that he cannot afford it all. He's banned from J. Crew and Brooks Brothers. I've done similar things (although not to that scale). Ultimately, there can be many reasons for strange or even potentially harmful behavior that one cannot easily control.
- jliptzin 10y agoHow do they enforce that ban? Do they check the ID of every shopper who makes a purchase?
- CodeWriter23 10y agoFacial recognition + security guard
- caiowilsonb 10y agounfeasible.
- bunderbunder 10y agoSet up the POS machines to refuse to process purchases using certain credit card numbers, or based on the name associated with the card, I'm guessing.
- weaksauce 10y ago> or based on the name associated with the card doubtful that that is a strategy or else there would be a ban on common names.
- bardworx 10y agoMulti-level process since a "ban" in online world is difficult to achieve: 1. Set a cookie (lowest form since cookies get cleaned/deleted, but useful) 2. Recognize username + email address (tied to cookie so multiple usernames/emails can be used) 3. Address - physical shipping address is difficult to constantly change (for a normal person, scammers that use drop addresses are a different story all together) 4. Credit Card number w/associated billing address. The billing address is also difficult to constantly change and would correspond to shipping address. There are additional steps a company can take, if necessary.