Sounds like this is a temporary hurdle for you - the living arrangement you have. Regarding not having much to talk about - the more you are in your head, the

Sounds like this is a temporary hurdle for you - the living arrangement you have. Regarding not having much to talk about - the more you are in your head, the more true this is :) Conversations can be about information exchange, and that's where your current comfort level is it sounds like - because it's head-heavy. There's another way of relating, which's emotion-based - but then if you're a dark cloud of 'life sucks', then of course you stick to intellectual conversations. Most people put up an emotional wall but you don't have to - a buddy I know went to Japan for a few months, he came back a different person. Not only did he get out of his head while he was there, but now he had an intellectual topic to chat with strangers about - travelling and japan. It got him started on a path toward being able to relate emotionally. The intellectual stuff gets old - the emotional keeps on giving. My path was making friends with a dude who liked to go out and have a drink, I found that once I got out of the house at least once a week, within a few months I had experiences to talk about, the 'hey have you been to X? My buddy's thinking of doing Y' - it snowballs, but you need to do a little work on yourself and your self esteem, to realize people gravitate towards positive energy and novel experiences - you do too, once you let go of some of the negative barriers you have.