Do you mind explaining how I contradicted myself? Honestly, Im trying to view this as if Im a parent about my child. If my child went to a loan shark and did so

Do you mind explaining how I contradicted myself? Honestly, Im trying to view this as if Im a parent about my child. If my child went to a loan shark and did something stupid, I would be angry at them. If my child went the official "promised" route to a better life through college for low income or higher lifestyle, I would be proud. If my child never went to college, I eould think there is something wrong with them unless they had an alternative path to success. What is contradictary?