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Thanks for reminding me we need to decimate all the horrific dating sites out there. Who's in?

by seiji 17y ago

kapitti 17y ago
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lallysingh 17y ago
Oi! I'm meeting & dating some wonderful women through these things! You just have to know the game and play along. A little experience with queuing models and Petri nets also helps.
- francoisdevlin 17y ago
  Queuing models and Petri nets? You must be having success.
  - jrockway 17y ago
    Call me old-fashioned, but I just send relevant messages to girls that I think I might like. Not everything is some mathematical operation to optimize.
    - kadavy 17y ago
      It's all about the one-line hook, baby: http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/match-messages/ http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/match-messages/
    - LiveTheDream 17y ago
      But dating is a numbers game, and a numbers game is well-suited to mathematical optimization, right?
    - lallysingh 17y ago
      Actually the best way I connect to girls is to be openly nerdy. Show the excitement, but keep it short so they don't get bored. As for the queuing models & Petri nets, assuming everyone understood I was a more than a little tongue-in-cheek: - Setup your net as a cycle between weekdays and weekends. I only use 1 week of forward planning, so my base net is 3 weekdays (I save a few weekdays for non-dating) and 2 weekend days. 5 vertices. - Duplicate the net for different stages, roughly equating one stage per date sequence number. E.g stage 1 is first date, stage 2 is the second date, etc. - Each girl is a token. - Each token in each stage tells you how your day is likely to go, once you equate the stage # to an expected progress level. Especially early on in the dating sequence, dates can be short, so multiple dates can be stacked into a day (e.g. an afternoon 1st date vs a dinner/movie 3rd date that night). Nothing fancy by any means. Note, again, that this is pretty tongue-in-cheek, but it does help me keep a rational (and semi-quantitative) focus on what is fundamentally a numbers game. I don't lose my cool on dates b/c each one I understand as a single token, instead of freaking out on how this or that girl could be "the one." Edit: clearly this needs work, but I'll have to look up Petri nets again before tightening this up.
- realitygrill 17y ago
  Please explain this. I am grinning hugely in anticipation.
gaius 17y ago
Why the downvotes? A better dating site is on YC's list of things they want to fund.
- jrockway 17y ago
  What's wrong with okCupid, other than being written in C++?
  - randomtask 17y ago
    What's wrong with it being written in c++?
    - jarin 17y ago
      It's not written on punchcards, that's what!
  - philwelch 17y ago
    It doesn't have the best revenue model and it hasn't fixed the fundamental gender imbalance problem yet. These two problems have the same solution: charge men for membership, women join for free. Every college keg party has figured this out, I'm surprised online dating sites haven't.
    - cabalamat 17y ago
      Dating sites run on the network effect: they are useful in proportion to the number of people on them. If they charge money for members, they will have less people on them. Therefore someone interested in a dating website should join one (or more) that don't cost anything. Oh, and they are less likely to be scams that way too.
      - jseliger 17y ago
        But the quality of dating sites matters too: is a site with 1,000 flakes or 200 people seriously looking for a date better? One thing that charging, even very small amounts, can do is weed out people who don't care. For example, Love Lab: http://thestranger.selectalternatives.com/gyrobase/Personals/ http://thestranger.selectalternatives.com/gyrobase/Personals... through Seattle's The Stranger seems to work pretty well because a) it's already oriented in the community and b) charges, which keeps out spammers and flakes. You might be right, but I 'm not sure which element is more important: sheer numbers or the quality of the people who have joined.

Thanks for reminding me we need to decimate all the horrific dating sites out there. Who's in?

by seiji 17y ago

Thanks for reminding me we need to decimate all the horrific dating sites out there. Who's in?

kapitti 17y ago

lallysingh 17y ago

Oi! I'm meeting & dating some wonderful women through these things! You just have to know the game and play along. A little experience with queuing models and Petri nets also helps.

francoisdevlin 17y ago
Queuing models and Petri nets? You must be having success.
- jrockway 17y ago
  Call me old-fashioned, but I just send relevant messages to girls that I think I might like. Not everything is some mathematical operation to optimize.
  - kadavy 17y ago
    It's all about the one-line hook, baby: http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/match-messages/ http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/match-messages/
  - LiveTheDream 17y ago
    But dating is a numbers game, and a numbers game is well-suited to mathematical optimization, right?
  - lallysingh 17y ago
    Actually the best way I connect to girls is to be openly nerdy. Show the excitement, but keep it short so they don't get bored. As for the queuing models & Petri nets, assuming everyone understood I was a more than a little tongue-in-cheek: - Setup your net as a cycle between weekdays and weekends. I only use 1 week of forward planning, so my base net is 3 weekdays (I save a few weekdays for non-dating) and 2 weekend days. 5 vertices. - Duplicate the net for different stages, roughly equating one stage per date sequence number. E.g stage 1 is first date, stage 2 is the second date, etc. - Each girl is a token. - Each token in each stage tells you how your day is likely to go, once you equate the stage # to an expected progress level. Especially early on in the dating sequence, dates can be short, so multiple dates can be stacked into a day (e.g. an afternoon 1st date vs a dinner/movie 3rd date that night). Nothing fancy by any means. Note, again, that this is pretty tongue-in-cheek, but it does help me keep a rational (and semi-quantitative) focus on what is fundamentally a numbers game. I don't lose my cool on dates b/c each one I understand as a single token, instead of freaking out on how this or that girl could be "the one." Edit: clearly this needs work, but I'll have to look up Petri nets again before tightening this up.
realitygrill 17y ago
Please explain this. I am grinning hugely in anticipation.

gaius 17y ago

Why the downvotes? A better dating site is on YC's list of things they want to fund.

jrockway 17y ago
What's wrong with okCupid, other than being written in C++?
- randomtask 17y ago
  What's wrong with it being written in c++?
  - jarin 17y ago
    It's not written on punchcards, that's what!
- philwelch 17y ago
  It doesn't have the best revenue model and it hasn't fixed the fundamental gender imbalance problem yet. These two problems have the same solution: charge men for membership, women join for free. Every college keg party has figured this out, I'm surprised online dating sites haven't.
  - cabalamat 17y ago
    Dating sites run on the network effect: they are useful in proportion to the number of people on them. If they charge money for members, they will have less people on them. Therefore someone interested in a dating website should join one (or more) that don't cost anything. Oh, and they are less likely to be scams that way too.
    - jseliger 17y ago
      But the quality of dating sites matters too: is a site with 1,000 flakes or 200 people seriously looking for a date better? One thing that charging, even very small amounts, can do is weed out people who don't care. For example, Love Lab: http://thestranger.selectalternatives.com/gyrobase/Personals/ http://thestranger.selectalternatives.com/gyrobase/Personals... through Seattle's The Stranger seems to work pretty well because a) it's already oriented in the community and b) charges, which keeps out spammers and flakes. You might be right, but I 'm not sure which element is more important: sheer numbers or the quality of the people who have joined.