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"They lack social skills because they lack emotional intelligence." --> I agree "nerds lack emotional intelligence because they have learnt to ignore the relev
by zackattack 16y ago
"They lack social skills because they lack emotional intelligence." --> I agree
"nerds lack emotional intelligence because they have learnt to ignore the relevant emotions." --> Maybe.
"That is why bullies are able to bait nerds; they both feel that the nerds' denial of group emotions makes them culpable." --> I would love to hear you expand on this, and I loved that you invoked a concept of "group emotions", which I had never before heard formulated as such.
- thribbler 16y agoPart of my explanation would be that you can only insult a person with their compliance. If they become offended or defensive then they are implicitly conceding that you have a point. So, although nerds are consciously unaware of their denial, it lurks beneath the surface and effects their emotional response in ways that other people can detect.
- AndrewDucker 16y agoIf they become offended or defensive then they are implicitly conceding that you have a point. Not at all true. Especially with children. Shouting rude words at kids, threats of physical violence, and implication of things they don't understand make kids feel awful very easily.