Guess what: being an asshole is in the eye of the beholder. If someone says I'm an asshole, I don't get to tell them they're wrong. It's how they feel about

Guess what: being an asshole is in the eye of the beholder. If someone says I'm an asshole, I don't get to tell them they're wrong. It's how they feel about me, regardless of whatever I or anyone else feels. The absolute best I could do is say that they're alone in feeling that way. Lots of folks thought Steve Jobs was an asshole. You can say "well he was just direct" but that doesn't take away how they felt about him, or what their opinions are.