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I wonder if dread is the right word for it. I've always associated feelings of dread with knowing (or fearing) something is going to happen that will be terribl

I wonder if dread is the right word for it. I've always associated feelings of dread with knowing (or fearing) something is going to happen that will be terrible. You can certainly dread going to your job, but that weird state of limbo--where you do absolutely nothing because you simultaneously are avoiding something but also are feeling guilty for avoiding it--always felt like a different animal to me. Then again, I've never had a good word to describe it, so who knows.

dino-neil 10y ago
That describes it quite well. That empty feeling where you have so much to do, but you end up just ticking over without any ambition or drive. How do I fix?
- 72deluxe 10y ago
  I normally make a prioritised list and work through the items on the list. If I do not, I cannot fathom which item to do first and there is so much to keep track of that I forget to do some of the items. So a list forces me to document what I need to do, and work through it methodically.
  - spangry 10y ago
    This approach works well for me (when I have the motivation to write the list). Breaking each task down into smaller sub-tasks is helpful too. I usually end up with a list of very simple directives that leave little room for thinking (or ruminating). Having this allows you to concentrate on one thing at a time and avoid 'analysis paralysis', which make you more efficient at some tasks. For example: Task: 'Clean the house' 1. Grab big garbage bag 2. Go from room to room and put garbage in bag. 3. Put garbage bag in outside bin. 4. Grab large basket. 5. First room: put items that do not belong in room into the basket. 6. Subsequent rooms: Items in basket that belong -> dump somewhere in room. Items that don't belong in room -> in the basket. .... etc.
    - namaemuta 10y ago
      Isn't it too exhaustive? I can imagine myself thinking "oh, no, I have to do another enormous list!" every time.
      - biofox 10y ago
        This is what happens for me even with shorter lists. Or, I try to ease myself into working by starting with a list, but start feeling overwhelmed as the list grows longer. When this happens, I more often than not end up procrastinating. It usually takes a critical deadline and an unhealthy amount of panic to break the deadlock.
        aidenn0 10y ago
        Yeah that didn't work for me either. Try a really short pithy list: * Take out the trash Then 5 minutes later, congratulate yourself for getting your entire todo list done. If you are really ambitious, you can make a similarly pithy list for tomorrow, but do not do it until tomorrow; if you're anything like me that will lead to burn-out. After a week or two, graduate to a list with two items on it. Don't worry about a month from now. You can reevaluate then.
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      - gregmac 10y ago
        I vary with how I do lists and how extensive they are, but sometimes I do put fairly trivial stupid things on simply because it's easy to cross off, and crossing something off is proof you're past "getting started" and that's often the hardest part. Using the parent's example, 'Clean house' is too big, 'Clean living room' may even be too big. My approach might be something like: * Living room: * Remove garbage * Put dirty dishes in kitchen * Put stuff that doesn't belong in tote * Put everything that does belong on shelves * Vacuum I like each thing to be an 'accomplishment' in itself -- however trite -- because there is a meaningful result (even if no one but me cares or notices).
- nsomaru 10y ago
  In Indian metaphysics, this state of mind is called "rajas", which arises from a mind frenzied by self centred desires. It is characterised by desire ridden action which lacks a goal beyond the elevation of the actor. It is compared and contrasted with tamas (lethargy/sloth) and satva (equanimity and poise). You should check out the Vedanta Treatise[0] if you're interested further. Disclaimer: studied Vedanta under the author in India. [0] https://www.amazon.com/Vedanta-Treatise-Eternities-Parthasarathy-ebook/dp/B00I8D4ZFM https://www.amazon.com/Vedanta-Treatise-Eternities-Parthasar...
  - nikhil417 10y ago
    What was that experience of studying Vedanta like? I'm currently in India trying to learn more about Indian philosophy and spirituality and I don't know where to start.
    - SmkyMt 10y ago
      Well, you could check out what is said to be "the only book Steve Jobs had on his iPad (and the one handed out at his memorial service): https://www.amazon.com/Autobiography-Self-Realization-Fellowship-Paramahansa-Yogananda/dp/0876120796/ https://www.amazon.com/Autobiography-Self-Realization-Fellow... [sorry: don't have link of Amz in India]
    - nsomaru 10y ago
      I spent 3 years at the Vedanta Academy[0]. The experience was life changing, mostly ineffable. If you pushed me, I'd say that it provided me with a solid set of first principles from which value judgements could be made. It seems like I was 'living randomly' before. If you're interested, check out this talk[1] by the author. Then if you'd like to visit the Academy you could shoot a mail to visitinfo@vedantaworld.org [0] www.vedantaworld.org [1] https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxSX7WIdt2E https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxSX7WIdt2E
gsam 10y ago
It's helplessness.
carlisle_ 10y ago
> I wonder if dread is the right word for it. 'Anxiety' would be more appropriate.

dino-neil 10y ago

That describes it quite well. That empty feeling where you have so much to do, but you end up just ticking over without any ambition or drive. How do I fix?

72deluxe 10y ago
I normally make a prioritised list and work through the items on the list. If I do not, I cannot fathom which item to do first and there is so much to keep track of that I forget to do some of the items. So a list forces me to document what I need to do, and work through it methodically.
- spangry 10y ago
  This approach works well for me (when I have the motivation to write the list). Breaking each task down into smaller sub-tasks is helpful too. I usually end up with a list of very simple directives that leave little room for thinking (or ruminating). Having this allows you to concentrate on one thing at a time and avoid 'analysis paralysis', which make you more efficient at some tasks. For example: Task: 'Clean the house' 1. Grab big garbage bag 2. Go from room to room and put garbage in bag. 3. Put garbage bag in outside bin. 4. Grab large basket. 5. First room: put items that do not belong in room into the basket. 6. Subsequent rooms: Items in basket that belong -> dump somewhere in room. Items that don't belong in room -> in the basket. .... etc.
  - namaemuta 10y ago
    Isn't it too exhaustive? I can imagine myself thinking "oh, no, I have to do another enormous list!" every time.
    - biofox 10y ago
      This is what happens for me even with shorter lists. Or, I try to ease myself into working by starting with a list, but start feeling overwhelmed as the list grows longer. When this happens, I more often than not end up procrastinating. It usually takes a critical deadline and an unhealthy amount of panic to break the deadlock.
      - aidenn0 10y ago
        Yeah that didn't work for me either. Try a really short pithy list: * Take out the trash Then 5 minutes later, congratulate yourself for getting your entire todo list done. If you are really ambitious, you can make a similarly pithy list for tomorrow, but do not do it until tomorrow; if you're anything like me that will lead to burn-out. After a week or two, graduate to a list with two items on it. Don't worry about a month from now. You can reevaluate then.
    - deleted 10y ago
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    - gregmac 10y ago
      I vary with how I do lists and how extensive they are, but sometimes I do put fairly trivial stupid things on simply because it's easy to cross off, and crossing something off is proof you're past "getting started" and that's often the hardest part. Using the parent's example, 'Clean house' is too big, 'Clean living room' may even be too big. My approach might be something like: * Living room: * Remove garbage * Put dirty dishes in kitchen * Put stuff that doesn't belong in tote * Put everything that does belong on shelves * Vacuum I like each thing to be an 'accomplishment' in itself -- however trite -- because there is a meaningful result (even if no one but me cares or notices).
nsomaru 10y ago
In Indian metaphysics, this state of mind is called "rajas", which arises from a mind frenzied by self centred desires. It is characterised by desire ridden action which lacks a goal beyond the elevation of the actor. It is compared and contrasted with tamas (lethargy/sloth) and satva (equanimity and poise). You should check out the Vedanta Treatise[0] if you're interested further. Disclaimer: studied Vedanta under the author in India. [0] https://www.amazon.com/Vedanta-Treatise-Eternities-Parthasarathy-ebook/dp/B00I8D4ZFM https://www.amazon.com/Vedanta-Treatise-Eternities-Parthasar...
- nikhil417 10y ago
  What was that experience of studying Vedanta like? I'm currently in India trying to learn more about Indian philosophy and spirituality and I don't know where to start.
  - SmkyMt 10y ago
    Well, you could check out what is said to be "the only book Steve Jobs had on his iPad (and the one handed out at his memorial service): https://www.amazon.com/Autobiography-Self-Realization-Fellowship-Paramahansa-Yogananda/dp/0876120796/ https://www.amazon.com/Autobiography-Self-Realization-Fellow... [sorry: don't have link of Amz in India]
  - nsomaru 10y ago
    I spent 3 years at the Vedanta Academy[0]. The experience was life changing, mostly ineffable. If you pushed me, I'd say that it provided me with a solid set of first principles from which value judgements could be made. It seems like I was 'living randomly' before. If you're interested, check out this talk[1] by the author. Then if you'd like to visit the Academy you could shoot a mail to visitinfo@vedantaworld.org [0] www.vedantaworld.org [1] https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxSX7WIdt2E https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=HxSX7WIdt2E

gsam 10y ago

It's helplessness.

carlisle_ 10y ago

> I wonder if dread is the right word for it. 'Anxiety' would be more appropriate.