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> So if she insist, don't be angry at her - be angry at De Beers. I completely agree. My fiancé and I are currently two engaged Americans, and we had a couple

> So if she insist, don't be angry at her - be angry at De Beers. I completely agree. My fiancé and I are currently two engaged Americans, and we had a couple conversations about how we envision our wedding ceremony to happen. For the most part, we had very casual viewpoints on marriage (we don't need to make a big deal out of it), but she wanted a ring and I wasn't too hot on giving De Beers more money. She agreed with me, even admitted that it was a silly notion to have a diamond ring, but I can tell it's what she truly wanted. At the end of the day, I decided to go with the diamond and she really loves it. If I had gotten my way, I would've gone with an alternative like moissanite or a synthetic, but we're both happy with the outcome. It's good to see that Americans are starting to wake up about wedding culture, but I'm anticipating that it will take a few generations for most people to rid themselves of it. If I purchased an alternative gemstone for my fiancé, her parents would've been upset with me, but if my child wanted to get an alternative gemstone, I would praise them.

bluedevil2k 10y ago
> Giving DeBeers more money DeBeers only has a 40% market share now. ALROSA has about 40% and they're basically a Russian government company.
rincebrain 10y ago
What about the synthetic diamond excluded it from the options?
- TeMPOraL 10y ago
  Synthetic != "the real deal", which makes it (perceived as) worthless.
  - rincebrain 10y ago
    I know that's the argument for various people, I just wondered whether that was the case for their spouse, since synthetic is definitely a real diamond, albeit not one that took centuries to grow.
Can_Not 10y ago
> If I purchased an alternative gemstone for my fiancé, her parents would've been upset with me And that would be the right time to let them learn about blood diamonds or give them their much deserved shaming.
- TeMPOraL 10y ago
  Pissing off your potential future parents-in-law will not win you the love of your fiancée. You have to weigh the gains against the consequences.
  - Can_Not 10y ago
    Why would I be the one arguing with my in-laws? If she's not openly offended at the presumption of blood diamonds, she's not really my type.
  - ionised 10y ago
    Sounds like this relationship might be more trouble than its worth, if it means giving up your (sensible) principles.
et-al 10y ago
> It's good to see that Americans are starting to wake up about wedding culture, but I'm anticipating that it will take a few generations for most people to rid themselves of it. Don't worry, there's always another advertising campaign to push us something we won't need. Trust me. "If you can't afford to take a year off and travel with your future partner, then your relationship won't be able to sustain the trials of everyday life."

bluedevil2k 10y ago

> Giving DeBeers more money DeBeers only has a 40% market share now. ALROSA has about 40% and they're basically a Russian government company.

rincebrain 10y ago

What about the synthetic diamond excluded it from the options?

TeMPOraL 10y ago
Synthetic != "the real deal", which makes it (perceived as) worthless.
- rincebrain 10y ago
  I know that's the argument for various people, I just wondered whether that was the case for their spouse, since synthetic is definitely a real diamond, albeit not one that took centuries to grow.

Can_Not 10y ago

> If I purchased an alternative gemstone for my fiancé, her parents would've been upset with me And that would be the right time to let them learn about blood diamonds or give them their much deserved shaming.

TeMPOraL 10y ago
Pissing off your potential future parents-in-law will not win you the love of your fiancée. You have to weigh the gains against the consequences.
- Can_Not 10y ago
  Why would I be the one arguing with my in-laws? If she's not openly offended at the presumption of blood diamonds, she's not really my type.
- ionised 10y ago
  Sounds like this relationship might be more trouble than its worth, if it means giving up your (sensible) principles.

et-al 10y ago

> It's good to see that Americans are starting to wake up about wedding culture, but I'm anticipating that it will take a few generations for most people to rid themselves of it. Don't worry, there's always another advertising campaign to push us something we won't need. Trust me. "If you can't afford to take a year off and travel with your future partner, then your relationship won't be able to sustain the trials of everyday life."