There is a big difference between a heated debate between passionate enough individuals that grows into an yelling match, which then somebody tries to break ("S

There is a big difference between a heated debate between passionate enough individuals that grows into an yelling match, which then somebody tries to break ("Stop arguing!!") when both actors turn on the mediator ("WE'RE NOT ARGUING!!!"). Or on the other hand - a straightforward domination attempt - where individual A (with possibly higher socio-economic rank) approaches individual B and proceeds to tear them a new one without any forewarning. Case 1 - Good: indicates passion and willingness to break stalemate. Case 2 - Bad: me big gorilla approach. Personally when situation 2 arises, I kindly notify the would-be Alpha. Just like the parent. That nobody and really nobody yells at me and gets away with it. I'm prepared to go extraordinary lengths to satisfy people or to avoid mistakes or even make them up - just to avoid getting yelled at - so whenever situation 2 arises there are only 2 options: 1. Somebody needs somebody else to release their steam on. 2. Somebody wants to prove a point that I'm a looser without even giving me option of proving them wrong. In any case - yelling at (not with) people is bad, really really bad.