I'm 34, I totally experience that. Then funny part is that I thought it was a decision of mine, and not a social phenomenon. The more time I passed closed to s

I'm 34, I totally experience that. Then funny part is that I thought it was a decision of mine, and not a social phenomenon. The more time I passed closed to some people, the more I was disappointed. There was always this time they would do this unclassy or even totally ugly thing. This made me ask a lot of questions: "Is it me?", "Am I attracted to that kind of people?", "Could it be that it's just how humans are?". And then I realized something that was a cornerstone in my relationship with humans: it's not that they are that bad in intimacy, it's just that they do incredible and unsustainable efforts in casual relations. It stroke me that what I felt was a problem was not being plainly "bad guys", but rather not living up to the expectations. How could they? The way they shown themselves in casual relations was nearing perfection. I've come to embrace this. Let's acknowledge the huge efforts people do to be nice and be part of that, and allow them to "rest" outside those social occasions. I'm perfectly fine to have no close friends (except those early friends, but we see each other like twice a year so we can maintain that effort without problem), and I'm glad to be able to tip in the best of humanity.